I turn 18 in less than 3 days. Lately, I've been feeling extreme anxiety over the major changes in life that are ahead of me. My fiance of two years is so confused about what to tell me. I turn 18, I graduate, we get married, I start college, we get a place, I leave behind everything I've ever known. I just am so overwhelmed about the whole situation. Anyone have any tips on how to deal with this type of anxiety? Thanks for any help!
2007-04-21 14:49:42 · 9 answers · asked by thedramaqueen03 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I didn't post this in order to be critisized for marrying at a young age. I was just looking for helpful tips to help handle certain stresses and anxieties. Thanks for those of you that weren't overly judgemental.
2007-04-21 16:33:13 · update #1
I did this. well almost... I didn't get married but I might as well have been. I was 17 and I moved out, my now husband and I worked while I finished high school. If these are all things that you want to do then you will be fine. Take a deep breath and evaluate all of your choices, make sure they are really what you want to do. I'm guessing there is a good reason why you are rushing all of your major life changing events if that reason is good enough for you than it should be good enough for everyone else. People seem to think that by getting married you will ruin your life, you wont! Stay in school and enjoy married life.
2007-04-21 18:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by baby G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I can tell you is that when you turn 18, NOTHING HAPPENS. No one will come to you and tell you to get out of the house. No one will force you to do things you don't want to do, or ready to do. Absolutely NOTHING HAPPENS.
Everything you said you are anxious about is your choice. You are choosing to do these things, such as get married, get your own place, go to college, and leave your home town. It has nothing to do with age.
What I can tell you is that after you turn 18, if you mess up, YOU are the one who is sololy responsible for your mistake. So be mindful when you make any major actions. Don't sign anything without fully understanding the implications.
At 18, you are only half way adult. You won't be fully adult until you are 21. (assuming you are in US)
If you are not ready for marriage, don't get married. If you are not ready to leave your home town, don't leave your home town. Get your place in your home town.
I think you are expecting becoming 18 to be a big change that someone will force upon you. It isn't. It just give you an ability to (which you really don't have to excercise if you don't want to), and give you the full responsibility when you do.
At 18 years old, you are still young. Don't rush into things. (such as marriage) Take your time. Relax.
2007-04-21 15:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you have piled on a lot onto your plate at one time and maybe you need to sit back and look at what you need to deal with first. Do you have to get married at once before you go off to college? Do you think you two could wait until college is done? Does he have a good enough job to support the two of you while you are attending School? Your education should come first and there are many economic factors that have to be taken into consideration before you leap into this situation. I would not suggest any temporary relief , but consider your options.
2007-04-21 15:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by tobyavrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. well, first of all Happy Early Birthday! But life is exciting, just try and look at the positives that will be coming out of adulthood, you get to graduate for example! I know it seems you will be leaving behind everything that you've ever known, but you still have your fiance with you to help with this new experience, right? Just look forward to all the excitement that life gives. Hope this helped!
2007-04-21 14:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just part of life - don't worry about it! However, you seem to be causing most of the anxiety yourself!!!!!!!!! Turn 18, graduate, get married, begin college and get a place. You should be taking one step at a time not 5 at a time - no wonder you're stressed out!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Slow down!!!
Life is too short, as it is, why make it worse than it has to be!!!
What's the hurry.........................................
If you both love each other - then take one step at a time.
2007-04-21 15:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have read some litterature about panic attacks. But they allways seem to have a more scientific approach and that is nothing I need in my struggle to survive those horrible panic attacks. This is a "hand on" and very practical book. I felt it was written to me. I am sure that you are going to feel the same.
Joe Barry writes exactly how I think. The examples are perfectly described. And the method is genius. I recommend this book and thanks Joe Barry for writing it. It changes your life
2016-05-17 11:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down! That's too many things all at once! No wonder you're anxious all the time.
2007-04-21 14:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by TulipaLove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get maried until you go through those other changes. marrage will just compount the stress.
2007-04-21 14:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Yancy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try slowing things down. it sounds like your moving really fast when you dont need to! take your time
2007-04-21 15:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by chikka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋