My father is a Narcsisist and he is very hard to deal with. HE acts like hes entitled to everything in the world and just plain old mean....Not to mention he is a dry drunk.
I am 23 and living at home...I would LOVE to move out but that isn't possible at the moment. I need some ways to be able to tolerate him and possibly not completely hate my life or completely make my moms life miserable with constant fighting?? Thanks so much for your help!!
2007-04-21 14:02:52 · 3 answers · asked by Jewels 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Mr. S. do you even know what Narissim is?? its NOT thinking positively about ones self. Its NOT being a positive thinker and NOT being an optomist. It is a personality disorder that is mean and degrading. My father goes out and spends way too much money and does things for other people to win thier approval and then comes home and tells us that we shouldn't spend money on clothing because we have enough even when our clothes are falling apart. My father is AT least 100 lbs over weight and he eats 2 or 3 servings of something and i have my ONE serving and tries to take some of mine. He sits there and dictates to us what we should do when we are already doing 5 things as he just sits on his butt and does NOTHING. He calls my mom "mommy" like she is HIS mom which clearly isn't...he sas things in a negitive way to get a reaction. Makes fun of us when we do even though thats what he wanted.
2007-04-21 15:15:20 · update #1
As to getting out I am doing what I can I have a disability so things are a tad slower when it comes to independance and whatnot. I just got my licence YESTERDAY however I am still working on hand controls so i am still pretty much trapped at home most of the time. Concidering that all my friends are working full time and or going to school I am kinda in a situation I have no one to get me out more then once every 3 months. I am working on gettina volunteer job at the hospital nearby but that is taking time...i know there is no money but have no experience and no money for school so not really marketable for a job i tried that route so I am trying this route maybe it will lead to a job. So i need some tips of how to deal with him when hes around since I am alone most of the day daily so being stuck in my room doesnt sound real good to me. I want to interact but I dont want to fight all the time either.
2007-04-21 15:19:57 · update #2
I suggest you read a bit of what Sam Vaknin has to say. He's a narcissist and writer - and may offer you some insight:
http://samvak.tripod.com/
The "Do's and Don'ts" in dealing with narcissists (How to Avoid the Wrath of the Narcissist - The Survival Manual):
http://samvak.tripod.com/npdtips.html
(just scroll down a bit)
2007-04-22 05:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by pepper 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I'd do whatever you can to get out of there. I am not saying run away, but finish school (college if you are in it) or get a job. It will take some time, but save up money so you can move out someday. Try not to interact with your family, if it only causes trouble. Find ways to get out of the house, so you don't have to be around negativity... Go to the library, go to the park, or what have you.
2007-04-21 14:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by January 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Has it ever occurred to you that he KNOWS he is imperfect, he KNOWS he is not "the man" and he is simply trying to change his own view of himself by positive thinking and acting? I.e. if you tell yourself you are good maybe you will become "good".. Those who have true confidence and really "know" they are perfect rarely have to take affirmative action to prove it - they simply enjoy it.
2007-04-21 14:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋