I might be having a baby but I am scared to tell my parents. My father has always told me that if I get pregant he will kill me or put me out the house please help!!!!!!
2007-04-21 13:52:02 · 25 answers · asked by Sexy_Dani 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You need to talk about it with your family when it's still in the early stages. I'm sure your father only said that to try and scare you and would be upset, but supportive, if you told him. Just don't, under any circumstances, let them force you to do anything you don't want to do, especially having an abortion.
2007-04-21 13:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by Nickie C 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean might. You don't have to wait that long to find out if you are so definitely wait until you know for sure before you say a thing! You and Your baby are most important here.I wouldn't let a threat stop me from having a baby. Is there somewhere you can go if you do tell your Dad and he reacts badly. What about Mum? Could you tell her first if you are P and let her tell your Dad. I can never understand the whole threat thing with some parents, You are their child and yes they may be disappointed but Mums and Dads are meant to be there no matter what. It is called unconditional love. In my opinion there are much worse things a girl could do then get pregnant. Where is the Dad? Can you rely on him? If you are not P then please take precaution next time. If your M and D throw you out then I think you would be better off without that model of Parenting. God Bless you and i hope you will be OK
2007-04-21 21:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Meg V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope your father isn't that cruel. Hopefully, that was just to scare you but those statements have a way of back firing. Try a pregnancy test.
You definitely should tell your mom when you know and when she calms down about it maybe she will tell your dad for you. Normally, after the shock parents become supportive. After all, this is the 2000's. You need to get on prenatal vitamins and under a doctors care as quickly as possible if you are pregnant. I hope everything goes well for you. Just get it over with ...the longer you put it off the harder it will be.
Good luck.
2007-04-21 21:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously don't think you father is going to kill you. He's probably not going to put you out of the house either, especially if you are under 18. The law frowns on that.
He might yell quite a bit, and if you think his reaction would be bad, it would be best to have someone there with you when you told him. If you can get to the Health Department on your own, by all means go and get a pregnancy test and talk to them. They can advise you best on what to do.
2007-04-21 20:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sally G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police first, if you think he is really serious about the killing part.
As for the kicking you out, what do the father of your child's parents think? Could you stay with them?
But your dad is going to find out sooner or later. Would he be less likely to be angry now if you just told him the truth? I mean if you just wear baggy clothes and stuff and then have the baby, he's probably going to be really mad.
What does your mom think of that situation? Would you be able to trust her?
But if you're going to tell him, and you're concerned he might get violent, just bring someone (police officer or someone else along)
You could talk to a therapist too, and maybe get them to come over and talk to your dad about it?
2007-04-21 21:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by SummerLovin' 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you already tested yourself to be positive...you have no choice but to get help from your family. You have to be really mature and strong about it. Don't wait until it's too late to do something about it. Your parents can help you out in that way as well...
Your going to have to appeal to your father's better nature.
If it's any easier, write a letter even. Start off explaining why you got yourself in this situation, what your fears are, what you expect and then why you choose to write to tell him first instead of your mother, and how you need his help and total support. I think it will make a strong impression.
Hope that helps, and makes things a little easier for you.
2007-04-21 21:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by charming_imogen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to your parents. Tell them you think you might be pregnant and need to be tested. When you get your pregnancy test done also have them test you for sexually transmitted diseases and HIV. If your not pregnant then you need to learn safe sex practices or abstinence. If you are pregnant, take your vitamins, follow your doctors directions and if you cant or don't want to keep the baby give it up for adoption. Abortion should not be an option.
Its better that your family hear it from you now than later. and its better that they hear it from you than someone else. Yes your parents will be upset and disappointed but you cant let that stop you. You need medical attention for yourself and your unborn child!
Next time you have sex, if you have sex again, use a condom with spermicide as well as another form of birth control to minimize your chances of pregnancy and contracting a sexually transmitted disease.
2007-04-21 21:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steps:
1. Immediately start using birth control if you must have sex.
2. Get a home pregnancy test to see if you are pregnant.
3. If you are pregnant, tell an adult figure whom you trust. Do not tell your "friends". They will spread the gossip faster than you can imagine.
4. Depending on your age and religious regulations, decide what to do about it. Some states allow abortion without parental notification.
2007-04-21 20:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your not sure your if your pregnant yet you need to take a home pregnancy test. If you are sure your pregnant and for sure want to have the child then you need to talk to your parents about it. Pregnancy is a really big thing! Something that shouldnt be hidden from parents. I would know I'm 17 and have been pregnant I hid it from my mom for awhile and I'm glad I ended up telling her. It was nice having her around for it.
2007-04-21 21:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do please don't have an abortion. I know that this is definately a trying and stressful time but first find out if you really are pregnant. If you are first tell your mother in avery serious tone. If you are close then she will definately support you. If when you confront your father he tells you to get an abortion then tell him how he'd be killing his grandchild. I'm praying for you and good luck.
2007-04-21 22:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋