If love is supposed to be so wonderful, why is it so painful?

Answer 1

Having love is the ultimate joy, losing it is the most exquisite sorrow. Anything beautiful in life has the potential to hurt you when you lose it. That is part of what makes it so precious. We are mortal beings. Anything we experience in this world is so tenuous & fragile. The good news is that real love never ends, never dies. It survives beyond the grave. Two souls that love each other will always end up together. Not even death can part them. They will wait for you on the other side.

If you refuse to open your heart to love because of fear of being hurt then you deny yourself one of life's most rewarding experiences. Yes the pain can be unbearable but the joy is worth it. I wouldn't trade one moment with my beloved for anything on earth. It's worth every tear.

The best things in life are also the worst. Life is about risk. If it were easy it wouldn't be that interesting & you wouldn't appreciate it.

Answer 2

Have you ever noticed that when we shed a tear, that there is always something that it empowers us to do? Well, love is the same way. In it there is great hurt, but if everything always went good, what could you want out of it. The truth in it all is that you have to fight for all that you wish to be in life, there is so much that hurts, and when you find what doesn’t in love, then there is beauty in it all. You share that special something not only physically, but if both of you felt the pain in the love, then that is what love is. Only what lies at the tunnel of life can tell you why that this is, but you must live by life’s standards, and allow yourself to feel the pain without questions. All that we are is one self we cannot say why we are the way that we are, we just are, and that is all that can be said. Don’t give up if at times it is painful only think of what good will soon come. There are answers in everything that we live, we only just have to pick out the right ones.

Answer 3

No one ever said being in love was totally wonderful, and that life was a bowl of cherries. Love and life are like a highway that stretches as far as the eye can see. You can't see it, but we do reach that horizon every so often. Sometimes there are roadblocks and other times there is clear sailing.

When one road doesn't work for us, we simply cut our losses and take another. Of course it's not easy. The other road may be bumpy, but more than not, we've hopefully learned from our past mistakes. Life is too short to throw it away on someone who could care less for our emotions and or well being.

The love I lost was a blessing in disguise. I moved away from the small town and landed a job in Washington, DC. I now live on the Chesapeake Bay, retired, and spend my time writing short stories and novels and looking out over the water. The love I lost? Well, we won't rub salt into old wounds.

*winks*

Good Luck in Love!!!

Answer 4

If medicine is supposed to be good for you, why does it taste so bad? Neither life, nor the things in it are meant to be inherently fair, nor do they need to always make sense. Would you rather trade the pain of love for the absence of love? Anytime we lose someone or something we hold dear and of value, we are in pain. We mourn and grieve. That's a natural healing process and if we don't allow ourselves to go through it, we never start recovering.

Answer 5

Because if something can touch you that deeply, it also means it can hurt you just as deep.

Think of this, if a random stranger called you stupid, it might sting a bit, but it won't really cut you that deep for a few reasons:

1. they don't know you so you don't give as much credit to their opinion, it is an uneducated one, afterall.
2. you don't seek their approval as much as the approval of those you love, for when you think of others in higher regard, you hope that they will think of you with equally warm regard

On the other side, if someone you love calls you stupid, it would probably hurt quite a bit. We're more sensitive and volunerable with those we love, for good reason.

And if someone we don't know or don't really care for compliments us, the same rules above apply. But someone we really love compliments us and we beam.

The deeper you feel for someone, the greater joys and pains that person can cause you.... because you CARE.

Answer 6

One reason is that because life is imperfect. Another is that we must lose our unrealistic expectations, a tough one, for sure. Then, we don't know ourselves well enough to judge who is right for us, so we have to learn what works for us, person by person. Take psychology courses, and learn what your own traits are, so you can learn about others traits and how that works with your own.

Here's some nonsese that really does work well: find out the Eastern and Western horoscopes of both parties. If the books say you will do well with people of a certain sign, find people of those signs and see how that works. I've done well with the signs the astrologers say will work, and really suffered with the signs they say will not work. Few people are entirely bad for us, or entirely good for us, so you have to view dating as a way to pre-view how personalities will work with ours. And you have to learn to accept imperfection in others. But never abuse or neglect.

Answer 7

I ask myself that same thing, as I never had much luck in love. However, from what people tell me I can still hope it'll all work out. I even think that this poem is appropriate for this. "A life with love will have some thorns, but a life with no love will have no roses."

Answer 8

when u feel so painful, that means u do care a lot

love is just like wind, never see but always feel, painful actually the best feelings in love

Answer 9

there is always more pain than love in a loving relationship.

Answer 10

It took me some years to attain that when a relationship ends that the affection does not. no count how non everlasting the relationship develop into, the affection interior it develop into blessed by God for all eternity. while love leaves, God projects us to return to love and while we do and while it does, God then reclaims that area on your soul that provides you with a feeling of excitement, peace, and the grins that graces our faces.