i was watching tv and he came and sat next to me and started rubbing my leg and slowly put his hand down my pants and underwear...i was too scared to say anything and i'm too scared to say anything now. was i wrong? what should i do?
2007-04-21 13:33:42 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
YOU MUST TELL SOMEONE!!
Dont be scared!!! No one will be mad at you for it! They will be happy you told! And you could save some other child from having the same thing done to them!! You dont want it to happen to anyone else do you? Of course not!
So tell someone ASAP!
2007-04-21 13:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by snailysnal 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your Mother or your close Friend, and if your mother does not do anything about it then ring life line or the police, when ringing police ask for the child protection police and you will be refered to the right people.
Do not hold back and be scared of your uncle, if you let him get away with it he will do it again and even go therter then he all ready has. My Daughter was abused by her uncles as well and so was one of my sons the perpetrator was arrested and has gone to jail for it. There are a lot of help out there hear are some of the places you can look as I don't know where you live. www.reachout.com.au
1800688009, Chid abuse Doc's 132111, www.stopchildabuse.com.au/action/report.asp-5k
you can make reports anonymously these people will talk to you. In Victoria 132289, Tasmania 1800808178, South Australia 1300364100, New South wales 132055, Queensland 1300301300, Australia Capital Territory 62058800, Norther Territory 1800 019116, Western Australia 1800654432.
I hope these places and information help you and please dont hold back as it will get werse if you dont act now. Good luck and let us know on questions what your out come was and how your going. From Jimbob
2007-04-29 13:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jim Bob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong. Let me repeat that. YOU WEREN'T WRONG. You are the child here, and you cannot be repsonbile for the actions of an adult, so you can't possibly have been wrong.
However, you do need to speak to your parents about this. They may be angry at first, they may try to deny it at first, but keep talking to them. Also, just as soon as you possibly can, you need to talk with a nurse, doctor, teacher or clergyperson (if that's part of your life), and tell them precisely what happened. These people, in most places, are required by law to report any abuse cases or cases where they think there may have been abuse, to the appropriate authorities immediately. This could be child protective services, or the police or both. In fact, the police will have to be involved because your uncle has committed a crime. Child protective services will have to be involved to help you to understand that this is not your fault and to help you to deal with your feelings and with your family.
Just tell the truth, and remember that none of this is your fault. Your uncle has an illness that causes him to commit criminal acts that harm people, and in particular harm children. You have no control over this, but really,neither does he.
You will have a lot of work to do in the years ahead, to understand what happened and to understand and accept that this was not youir fault. You need to do that work, because if you don't you will always be a victirm. Do the work, and eventually, you'll be able to call yourself a sirvivor. A survivor can put this into perspective and move on with their life. A victim never can.
In the meantime, if this process of getting him arrested takes any time, never be alone with him, and never let another child be alone with him.
2007-04-21 14:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lindsay,
Of COURSE you were too scared to do anything; no you are not wrong for feeling frozen with fear. That is a totally NORMAL reaction.
Your uncle is doing something VERY wrong and illegal. You do need to tell somebody so it won't happen again.
WHO to tell can be a problem with incest. For instance, you may not get the reaction you deserve when you tell your parent(s). They may be shocked and attempt to deny the situation. They may try to blame you or make excuses for your uncle. In this case, you cannot count on anybody who reacts this way. They will be just as wrong for doing so. You will need to get help outside your family in that case.
Go to the counselor at your school, or even a trusted female teacher. You can also call RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) at 1-800-656-HOPE. They can talk to you and help you. You can also get online help at http://www.rainn.org.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It's a very difficult situation, and you're going to have to be very brave. You do not deserve to be abused. You deserve to be happy and safe, and your uncle has committed a HUGE violation against your body and against your trust. Kudos to you for KNOWING right away that this is very wrong and that something needs to be done. You are brave enough for that; now you need to be brave and TELL somebody so you can get help. God forbid this happen again.
PLEASE call RAINN.
2007-04-22 01:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must tell someone! If you can't tell your parents, tell a teacher. I don't know which country you live in, but in the UK every school has a Child Protection Officer who is trained to help deal with situations like this - your teacher will know who to talk to next and they will help you.
I know it's scary, but you've done nothing wrong. You have taken the first steps already by asking for advice here.
2007-04-29 00:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by K H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TELL YOUR PARENTS...He should not have done that to you..He invaded you and he needs to be exposed....How old are you??He needs to be arrested if you are under 16...And even if you are he still needs to pay for what he did to you...No one-No one has the right to touch you except your husband when you marry...That is God's law...Do not let him touch you again...Tell your mom or dad and if you are older than that call the police they will protect you...He is a jerk and needs to go to jail....He won't do it any more to you and if he threatens you you turn him in and then go stay with someone else for awhile..Please expose him to the whole family, he is not a nice person...Ask the Lord to help you out in this situation...Do not put up with this he is taking advantage of you and he will do it to some other kids...Please stop him...Please let me know what you decide...I will check my e-mail often to hear what you decided......I am here for you...
Carol
2007-04-28 14:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by carol 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell an adult you trust about what happened, and have them call the police immediately!! Tell the police what exactly what happened and they will be able to help you. Your uncle is sick and should not being doing that to anyone. Do not be scared to tell the police because they will help you with this situation. Your uncle will keep doing it until you do something about it.
2007-04-21 14:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by contender569 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone I beg you, what he did was very wrong. Next time he'll probably do more, because he's already made the first advance. The sicko is probably jacking off & thinking of you right now. Call the police immediately. Tell your family that this happened to you, I'm sure they will make sure he stays away.
2007-04-21 13:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by michele a 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart how old are you? First if u r under 18, tell your parents, then have them take you to closest police department and report your uncle for sexual abuse. That would be the right thing to do or else if nothing gets done he can think it's okay to do it again and again, to you or other girls. That would be wrong, so please get up the courage to report the abuse. I wouldn't let him get away with it. See I got molested by my grandpa, I told my mom and found out that his dad did the same thing to her. So stop the pattern of sexual abuse from continuing into the next generation, by reportin it please.
2007-04-29 05:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to voice the fact that you were given unwanted sexual advances as you don't know if you could talk about it and break the ice, write on a note on a piece of paper and 'drop it' in a place someone besides your uncle can find it, then they have broken the ice and you can talk about it. It will be hard a t first but you will feel better afer a while.
2007-04-29 01:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by lostie_fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not at fault. You need to tell an adult or go to the police. Don't let this guy get away with that. He'll try to touch someone else. You need to put a stop to this Jerk. You'll feel alot better about yourself if you do something..
Im sorry this happened honey. I wish you luck
2007-04-21 14:12:48 · answer #11 · answered by Grandma2007 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋