continuation from six yr.old situation?

Question

I really appreciate all the answers as I also notice some were from people who probably don't even have a kid, and those who might think they'll never go thru this, well this is not the only time this six yr. old has done it, is more than three and has gotten people not just me in trouble and so something that his teacher has notice too. Im looking for a way out not to hear that "give it some love, his mom is jusst like him and so I guess I can't do anything about it. thank you anyways and thankyou more to those last three answers I got of that people that answer and know what is like to be there.

Answer 1

I have been there and did answer the other question you had. He acutally needs help before he gets any older, but from a former stepmother since his father reacts this way with him, there is nothing you can do to make this any better. It will take the Father to see how this child is before any changes can be made. One day your husband will regret not doing anything for him at a young age. If his Mother is like him then he learned from her, now he needs to be relearned about these things, but until the Father see's a problem nothing short of a teacher or someone else opening his eyes he is deaf to the problem.

Answer 2

I am a teacher, so here is the teacher perspective. The child needs a structured life, discipline is included in that life. What his father did was have no regard for you, your views, and totally disrespected you as well as any further form of discipline that comes from you. Perhaps the two adults need to sit down and talk things over with no children present to establish some ground rules about dealing with issues like this, not just for this child, but all the children in your household. Any child living with a large amount of siblings, by blood or by marriage, needs a little time to figure out where they fit in. This time though should also have consequences for doing things that are not right.

I read the previous, but did not see why the child got the detention to begin with.... If the detention was for a valid reason, then yes, punish him at home too... you would be surprised at how his/her behaviors will change both at home and at school if there are consequences in both places for doing the wrong things.

hope this helps you.

Answer 3

I read your other question, and it seems to me to be a case of your husband not supporting you. It is well known that children will play one parent against the other, and if your husband is not taking your disciplinary actions seriously, then this child will never learn to respect you or take you seriously. I believe you husband is the problem. You two are not presenting a united front and this 6 year old is not stupid and can see that he can man manipulate his father.

You would not be the first wife to leave a marriage because of unbearable behaviour from kids. You are not getting the support you need and your husband needs to play a greater role in the discipline. I could imagine this situation would be driving you crazy so maybe your husband needs to know just how much this is wearing you down. Maybe you have to stop trying to be "super Mum" and just put some of the responsibility onto your husband. Its absolutely dreadful that you gave this boy a consequence for his actions and your husband totally disregards that and allows his son to watch television together.

Maybe you just have to be firm with your husband. Maybe tell him that you are done with the discipline and anything that happens to his children is HIS responsibility. You need to tell him that if he wont support you, then you are not going to take any more responsibility in raising his children. You have taken on an awful lot. This 6 year old is only a product of how he is being raised and whilever your husband is allowing this child to manipulate situations, then nothing will get better.

The answer lies with your husband. Maybe take a few steps back and allow your husband to deal with the child's behaviour himself. When the child gets into trouble at school....ring your husband.....tell him to deal with it. When the child misbehaves....ring your husband and tell him to deal with it. Explain to your husband that if he does not want you to discipline his children, then he has to be prepared to take time off work to come home and sort the situation out HIS way because that is what hes doing right now, except he is dealing with the aftermath, you are dealing with it on a daily basis. Maybe even suggest to him that he takes time off work to handle this situation because you are done with it. You can also tell him that he is the cause of his child behaving this way. Put it on his shoulders totally because it is obvious he wants to do it HIS way and is not respecting the fact that you are trying to raise HIS children.

The answer to this dilemma is with your husband.

Answer 4

I didnt read your first question, sorry but if you want a down to earth honest answer email me with your problem and Ill see what I can do. My email address is [e-mail] and I dont care about the stupid points so dont worry about that. Im here to help those in need the best I can. If I dont get back to you tonight I will tomorrow

Answer 5

do no longer hit her lower than any circumstances as you need to be reinforcing what you attempt to maximum excellent. outing or get rid of a privilege she truly enjoys-no snack, no fashionable television teach. you recognize most suitable what she truly likes. Be consistent. She is not in any respect allowed to hit, no longer in straightforward words once you're drained or there is employer. Consistency is the major. sturdy success.

Answer 6

what is the situation???