I'm 27Wks Pregnant, And I Haven't Been With My BabyDaddy Since 27Wks Ago...We Still Talk, But He Hasn't Been There For Me...He's To Busy Working Out Of Town...And Another Reason, He Don't Think This Is He's Baby...He Has A Reason, So I Respect That...
No I Didn't Cheat On Him..It's A Long Story...But N E Ways....
Well He Wants Me To Name The Baby After Him, Yes It's A Boy...
But My Family Want The Baby To Be Are Last Name (Cause He's Not There)....So My BabyDaddy Told Me, If You Don't Put My Baby After Me, Then I'm Not Going To Be There....He's Not Here Right Now, So What Makes Me Think He's Going To Be There When Hes Born....
Do Yall Think Hes Doing That Cause He Think It's Not His, And When He Finds Out It's His...Do Yall Think He Will Be There???....
What Should I Do? Please Help
2007-04-21 13:03:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you aren't married, give the baby your last name. By law, he has to support you financially. If a man doesn't want to be involved in his own child's life, that is his problem. But whether he is in the baby's life or not, he will have to give child support. Either way, he has to pay.
I think he is trying to bribe you into naming the child after him. Don't let him win. If he truly wants to be in the baby's life, the name isn't going to matter. Sound like he needs to do some growing up!
2007-04-21 13:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by Julie J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! Give your lil man your last name.. you've been the one growin' that baby all by yourself and that is so stressful and it hurts.
If he proves he can be a REAL father after the baby is born, then you can make up your mind. You can always change the baby's last name.
And don't worry about him not being around just because you don't give him his name... if it is his baby, the law will make him pay you child support then maybe he'll see he needs to man up and take responsibility.
Hang in there girl; it's hard bein' a mother and a father but your baby will have a lot of respect for you for being there and looking out for him. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything!
2007-04-21 13:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Chicka Dee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
per chance at the same time as this asshole has the chance to spend a at the same time as at the same time with his daughter he will change his body of options. For the lengthy run I say get him to take a paternity attempt in spite of the truth that, cuz i do not comprehend the way you're financially yet genuinely some newborn help might want to help just about every person today. a minimum of that way if he's no longer gonna be there to advance his daughter he can nevertheless have some impression on her existence, even if it truly is by courtroom order. common, this guy in basic terms needs to step as a lot because the plate and take duty in a unmarried way or yet another.
2016-10-18 02:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you, not him or your family, whether you give your child his last name or yours. It's a possibility that he's not there for you now because he doesn't think the child is his, but then it's also a possibility that he just won't be there period, and only you and him can figure that out. If there are questions that you have, I would address them to him and get clarification so that you know what you'll be getting yourself into or out of once your baby arrives. Always remember though, to do whats in that best interest of your child (after careful consideration). Good luck!!
2007-04-21 13:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by FutureMD29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your BabyDaddy is not there now and if he is not helping now....he Will Not be there later!
Since you are not married...give the baby your last name and move on. If you can not support the child then give it up for open or closed adoption. Many people are not able to have children of their own but they would be willing and able to pay your medical and legal fees. Good luck!
2007-04-21 13:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Maiden Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared that the baby had his name he would be there now, and he wouldnt be saying the baby wasnt his. Stick with your family, they are the ones that are there with you now. Tell the father to show up and take responsibility and you will name the baby after him or change it to his name later. You can name him as the father on the birth certificate without giving him his name. Stick with the people that are supporting you now. They will always be there for you. The father isnt and may never be.
2007-04-21 13:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's hard to say. The fact that he wants the child named after him does show that he wants people to know thats his child. My son's father never denied his son but he really wasn't there when I was pregnant. He kind of wanted to name the baby after himself but I told him no. He picked another name that he liked and we went with that. Now we've been together going on 4 years and he admits that he kind of wishes his son was named after him but it's not really a huge deal and he's there anyway. Point being it's kind of a sign that he may want to be there but if he really does want to be around he will be there either way.
2007-04-21 14:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl.. Let me tell you!! I went through the same thing. My husband(baby daddy then) didnt think my son was his because of a reason also and no I didnt cheat, but... I did name my son after him and he was barely there for me, but he was there after all was said and done. I didnt know I was going to name my baby after him until the day he was born!! Its hard and I know how you feel, Im 20 years old and married and ALL my kids got the same daddy. If you want to talk I have messengers:yahoo(lilwayneboo2005), aol(yazoochik05), and myspace(3sexymommy).. I know how you feel.
2007-04-21 13:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision is yours, even if you dont give your baby his name you can still make him take a DNA to prove to him that he is the father and make him pay you child support. Dont let him corner you into doing something you dont want. Again the decision is yours. Good Luck
2007-04-21 21:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to "iffy". put your name on birthcertificate, father "unknown". then if he really wants to know let him go for a paternitytest and then and ONLY then and IF he pays childsupport regularly would i even consider givin the baby his name, cos if he issn't the dad and wants nothing to do with u or the baby like he is doing now then your baby will grow older and wonder y his name is diffrent from his moms and once he goes to school kids can really be cruel with stuff like that. all things to consider..............good luck and congrats on your baby boy
2007-04-21 13:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by germanygirl_us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋