It all started many years ago, I exited my room and pushed the elevator button. When the doors open (one passenger) as soon as I saw her I thought OH MY GOD! (sexy girl). I got in and said "hello how are you?", she responded, "Fine". BUT THAT WAS IT!! THAT HAS ALWAYS BEEN MY PROBLEM! I do not know how to get past the first Step! I never get past "First Base!" PEOPLE riddle me this and help me out; HOW DO I keep a conversation going the next time I meet a sexy girl? (I find all girls sexy)
2007-04-21 12:42:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Confidence.....I know it sounds simple but alot of women feed off self confidence from a man.......NOT cocky but confident.
There could be a ton of women out there waiting for that second glance and conversation from you...............don't let it pass you by............
I think the question was a great one.............you score 10 points just for asking , sweet one :)
2007-04-21 12:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Bubble gum for the Brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If some random guy started talking to me in an elevator, I would think he was weird, no matter how good looking he was. Part of social skills is knowing when and where to strike up a conversation, not just knowing what to say. Try to get to know girls at work or girls with whom you have daily contact. Smile in a friendly way and make eye contact. Ask them questions such as how to do something, e.g. ask a girl at work how to do a certain task. In addition, instead of always thinking you have to make the first (conversational) move, be on the "lookout" and LISTEN to what other girls are saying. For instance, if you hear a girl talking about going to the gym, wait until a suitable moment, and then smoothly join the conversation. Say something like, "Oh, you go to so-and-so gym? I've been looking around for a new gym, what's that like?"
The key to good conversation, like the other poster said, is LISTENING. Make eye contact and act as if you are actually interested in what the other person has to say, and ask questions. Of course, this will come off a lot more smoothly if you are actually interested... for real... women pick up on fakers pretty quickly.
Good luck!
2007-04-22 18:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by thedrisin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank God you cannot see my picture. I would hate to be thought of as just a piece of meat. Just joking, in most cases I would take the lead and start the conversation.
But to help you out.............
Start with polite conversation.
Talk about the weather,
Joke about where you live,
Talk about politics,
Ask if they like to watch sport. If they do ask them which sport they like. If it is a sport you don't watch or play ask them about the rules. If it is a sport you do like, talk about some celebrity players you know, ask her which team she goes for.
There are heaps of things you can talk about. Although I think your problem is not what to talk about but if she thinks you are good looking as well.
From my own personal experience she may think you are cute, may have already checked out if you are wearing a ring, and if so which finger you are wearing that ring on, and is wondering if you have a "special friend" or if you don't if you think she is cute, or would be interested in you. This is what I would have done before I start a conversation with you.
2007-04-21 19:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really just need to work on your conversational skills. Questions which require more than a one word answer will get you better results. If you can find something you have in common (like being in the same building), that would be a good starting point.
Just don't start polishing up on the one-liners, most chicks don't dig that.
2007-04-21 19:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by ©2009 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter what you say, just be confident saying it. not arrogant. it also depends on who you are talking too. i've been with girls and the conversation went terrible. if you find your having a hard time keeping a conversation going, and she's not giving you much to work with, say goodbye and move on (there's no such thing as the hottest chick ever, cause they're all hot as hell) do this till you find someone you connect with, you'll know who; it's just finding her that might take some time and practice.
never show doubt, confidence isn't the only thing girls pick up on.
2007-04-21 20:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by stashspade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact same problem! I couldn't even get to "hello." You gotta ask a question - if it's about a local current event it works better. "Did you hear about that fight before?"
Then "What do you think they were fighting about?"
and "Do you think people fight too much?" - that question is something different - it's small talk, but it's a question she hasn't heard before.
Then you introduce yourself, and tell her you have to go but that you'd like to continue this conversation, and how can we do that?
If she's interested, you'll either get her number, or an invitation to dinner. If not, you stepped up, were polite, and left with your dignity and without regrets.
Write me privately if you need anything more, but I think you can probably develop it from here.
2007-04-21 19:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has trouble in an elevator situation. Girls like it if you have buillt layers of trust. I got a girlfriend that would be impossible if it was just on the street. But I worked with her, and it took over a year to get her trust and to get her to like me, and then you are not like every guy on the street.
Let's face it, girls are just better looking than guys. We have to work for it, and it takes time. Go for girls that you see every day.
2007-04-21 19:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by rattyboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I have the same problem too. Try communicating like you would be talking to your friends. Stay away from sex, religious, war, controversial issues, bad or tragic news like what happen in Virgina topics. Talk about good things, be a little funny not weird type of funny. Talk about common ground like some type of hobby that women can relate to. Good Luck.
2007-04-21 19:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, most elevator conversations don't get past first base, so its not like you can expect it to. In a normal situation, just hang around, listen to her, smile, but don't freak her out by pressing yourself forward. Girls want guys who are relaxed about life and who can handle themselves in social situations. Just be cool, but asking her about herself and listening to what she says is the absolute best way to get her to want you.
2007-04-22 03:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take up martial arts, it worked for me.
2007-04-21 22:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋