How do you keep the poison out...?

Question

when I read books on divorce to educate myself as to options in waht could be an upcoming custody battle...reading the words of cases and advisements feel like popison entering my brain...I don't want those images in my head...it hurts...it consumes...I read about the divorce rate...the children in suicide...young adults from broken homes going to jail...ex-wives attaking breakiing mens spirits and homes and business and forcing them into poverty...all out of revenge and retaliation...no concern for the kids...I love my son...I see him alot..I live 5 minutes away form him...but now she is trying to take him away from me through a new marriage and go 2 hours away..impossible for me to drop him off at school..she tried to abduct him and got caught 6 years ago..and now she is trying to abduct him legally...using her upcoming husband...he has money...and I never thought of her to be such a person for 16 years...now 3 years after the divorce she is trying to make my life a living helI

I cant stand to read these books...and discuss strategies with attornies...I don't want to know all of these things taht ruin peoples lives...but I don;t want to loose my son...he will be unhappy if he moves away...he has already said numerous times..."she will make my life very sad if she makes this guy my new step dad"...I have to protect him...but the process is killing my positive snese for life...it sucks...what to do without becomeing poisoned by all of this?

Answer 1

YOU NEED TO STAY STRONG FOR YOUR KID HOLD YOUR GROUND, DO NOT GIVE UP WOMAN ARE MEAN DO NOT STOP FIGHTING FOR YOUR KID !!

Answer 2

First, you can't keep the poison out. You can only control your actions and words.
Going through the same thing myself. You need a Domicile Restriction. It sounds like the child is old enough to have established a relationship with you, friends and school. The judge should be able to see that she is moving for herself and not the child. I would say you have a better than average chance to succeed. Mine cost about $3,500.00
As has been stated, see the child every chance you can and let him know that you are there for him no matter the circumstances. He will eventually see his mother for what she is. When he is of the age of consent in your state, usually 12 I think, you can modify the custody arrangement.
The first step though is a Domicile Restriction. DO NOT let her move before you file this.

Answer 3

Forget the books. You have rights as his father even if you two are divorced. Stand firm on your visitation rights. If shes moving out of state you can make it awful hard and expensive to obtain permission to move him. But thenyoure about to do exactly what those books describe. Best bet is to pray for the years til your son becomes an adult go by fast. You also have one other option, petition the court for a hearing for remodification of child custody and petition the Judge to let your son decide who he wants to live with, but dont ever coach him into what to say as the Judge will see thru this and turn your request down. Good luck and if you ever want to discuss those strategies, my email address is [e-mail] and Ill be glad to assist. Good luck

Answer 4

Hopefully her abduction six years ago will be instrumental in you keeping your son but as far as the whole situation of not allowing the negatives of so many divorces in the world not affect you.....you can't and shouldn't.

You may end up around a child that is having something going on at home and those that have not been aware of the "ugly" things that go on others may not see what you will see.

Take each and every experience and allow it to make you a stronger and better father. Take them as learning lessons as what you will never do in your life.

Answer 5

I agree with the other answers. NEver give up. Every time you see your son, tell him you love him. \

Make sure he can memorize your phone number so he can call you from whereever he is, if your ex manages to take him away.
MOST important, keep your attorney busy and on your side. Let your attorney do the nasty stuff if it has to be that way. He's/she's skilled and knows what to do.

Let your lawyer show the courts and anyone else who cares that you are a loving dad who wants and needs his son in his life.

If things do not work thje right way, your boy will know you love him because you tell him. Take the high road and don't bad mouth his mother, even if she does deserve it.

Best of luck to you and your son.

Answer 6

Well your story was touching that's for sure but the only real thing i can tell you welcome to the dark side of love and marriage .

You dint want to be " POISONED "!!? She poisoned you the first time you kiss her .That's that forbidden fruit the bible speaks of .

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