Do you feel any different when you get married? what is differnt when you get married. any advice on this would be very helpful to me.
2007-04-21 10:21:17 · 23 answers · asked by blue_eyed_woman_23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whats different is you have a partner to tackle this thing we call life together. Life, living, finances, Recipes, sex, kids, you name it. Ive been married 22 years, glad I did, and have had the best life partner anyone could ask for!
2007-04-21 10:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by Army Retired Guy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We did this gradually, so it is my personal take on it.
We moved in together and did a shared bank account only for shared bills. This was for about 3 years. By the end of this, we shared everything but our cars.
By the time we got married, we knew each other so well that nothing much changed in our daily lives except for the fact that now ALL financial, job, living arrangements and future decisions were joint decisions. And the fact that the situation was permanent, which we didn't fret over because we knew it was working well for both of us.
Since we were comfortable, and saw the moving in together as a trial period/test run, we saw getting married as passing the test and beginning our life together.
My advice is, that if it feels like a trap, don't do it. If it feels like a natural 'next step,' then it is right.
Actually getting married is like having a birthday. You don't actually feel different, but your 'status' changes.
Hope this helps.
2007-04-21 17:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Vincent A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are some problems in marriage, like learning to live with the person... If you love the person and you want to get married then by all means go for it, But don't marry for the wrong reason I.E. Got pregnant, or do it for more money... Make sure this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with... and if it is then like i said by all means marry them because then you two will be happy for a long time to come... good luck to you
2007-04-21 17:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 30 years. I was married at 17 and feel the same way I did then as I do now. To me it was a commitment that showed me my man loved me and wanted only me. I think people try harder when they are married than when they live together.
2007-04-21 17:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sharelaine 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is a very different "feel" to being married as opposed to dating or even living together. It comes from the sense of truly being a team, committed to doing life together. If your relationship is solid and trusting, this feeling is a wonderful one, far better than anything you can imagine.
2007-04-21 20:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For us, there was no difference, but you have to understand why I say that...
You see, if you develop a solid relationship BEFORE you get married, then things like the ceremony, the ring, the vows, etc., are just minor details...sort of like getting a driver's license.
Your life really doesn't change if you've got your head in the right place to begin with...
2007-04-21 21:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont feel any different. I guess you change though because you let more of your real self out I've noticed. I guess it is because you know they are kinda stuck with you. lol. I was married last Jan. and I feel wonderful. If I do feel different it is a better different. If you are just worried about marriage dont be it is the most wonderful thing.
2007-04-21 19:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very different because there is now one more person who you are going to share everything with and you have to take their feelings into consideration. and everything you do fromthat day on influences and affects the both of you not just you. you have to be more careful with things and there are going to be a whole lot new commitments, like bills, careers, money, children.
but it depends on the couple if the marriage works out.
no matter how different the two of you are, if you both really love eachother and WANT it to work out, it will.
it takes lots and lots of patience.
next week is my 1 year anniversary. and we had ups and dows, more downs of course. because there are many things the both need to agree on and its tuff at first but things get better.
the only advice i can give, is have patience and your gonna HAVE to be willing to compromise.
2007-04-21 18:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by MsChuLa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your entire life changes and its always the little things that add up to allot . It doesn't happen over night some faster then others but its inescapable
I read every answer that you received and i gave everyone a thumbs up because its all that and then some .
2007-04-21 17:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the trick is not to think about it. your a fool if you let it change you. its just the fact that you will live your life with this one person forever. just look at it as you while never lose your best friend. someone to back you up when you fall. someone to feed your a$$ when your hungry. you can still hang out unless your girl is crazy. but best of all is that you pretty much have a second opinion, a person to make love to, someone to back hand you when you need it, and someone to look out for you when your lost in mixed emotion and stressfull nights.
2007-04-21 17:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by Big Head 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋