should I let my 15 yr old?

Question

and his girlfriend be alone with the bedroom door shut? I think not...what do you think?

Answer 1

Leave the door cracked and just keep an eye on them let them have a little bit of privacy im sure he'll be happy that ur letting him have that little bit of privacy and remind him NOT to disrespect ur house

Answer 2

Nope! Cuz I know what they're doin! LOL My bf's parents let us be upstairs alone w/ the door shut when I was 15... and I remember what we were doing the majority of the time. If your cool w/ seeing your boy grope and kiss his girlfriend when you walk in unexpextantly then go ahead LOL Even worse, what if they were having sex! I agree w/ one of the answerers before about making sure they have privacy. The door may be open but he'll feel better that you won't be walking up and down the hall to "just put some towels away!" lol

Answer 3

If you trust your son, then yes. Have a talk about things that cannot happen, and make sure he understands that he could become a very young parent. If you feel really uncomfortable about it, then have them in the room with the door shut. But giving your son some space is a good idea at this age, and it builds trust and understanding on both sides.

Answer 4

I am a 16 year old girl with a 15 year old boyfriend.
I think unless you trust BOTH your son and the girlfriend you shouldn't let them have the door shut. It causes an open window for uneeded intimacy. So basically it's to your discression.

Answer 5

There is a fine line between the trust that should exist between a parent and their child, and the potential for unfavorable behavior without your knowledge. If we live in paranoia, most of which is generally not true, we are miserable and so is our family. However, in your specific case, though you surely should and want to be able to trust your son, it is highly unwise to permit him this level of trust. Regardless of his past performance and character, he is too young in a society laced with unplanned, unexpected teen pregnancies and a great deal of negative promotions in all forms of media. It is a dangerous gamble you should not take. Love your son and trust him, but this goes way beyond trust; it is a matter of parental authority and duty. It is not proper, necessary, and very risky. It allows for destructive behavior by your permission, and I know you want what is best for him. They want and on a very LOW level, need their privacy, but they should never be away from your sight or earshot. It is a major part of your parental responsibility to be aware, at all times, of where your child is and what they are doing. If you ask yourself either one of those questions and find you cannot answer it, locate him immediately and find out. He's at an age where he likely wants freedom and what they call "trust," but again, there is a difference.

Answer 6

if you are questioning it, you already know your answer.. do you think the girlfriend's parents would let your son be alone with her in her bedroom with the door shut..?? chances are it is a "NO WAY" answer..

Answer 7

Not unless you want to be a grandmother by the time he is 16 and him ruin his life. I would never allow that. I wouldn't even allow her in his bedroom period. If he can't have her visit in a public area in your home then he is up to something and so is she. Do you know her that well? I would hope you would use good judgment in this.

Answer 8

No! theres too much temptation for young hormones behind closed doors. however give them some privacy and space and make it obvious you are walking down the hall so that if they are kissing or doing something inappropriate they have a chance to break it up. teens love to live on the edge but need boundaries

Answer 9

No way! That's asking for trouble. If he gets mad at you for saying no, then he's probably trying to hide something. Honestly, if he has nothing to hide, he won't mind the door being open. But I would definitely not allow that if I were you. I'm 14, and I know what teens my age are capable of...

Answer 10

Maby not with the bedroom door shut unless he is responsible, i did the same thing with my girlfrined but we were educated, and only made out, and nothing else, so i hope he is educated.