I'm 19 and my live-in fiance is 23. He has a 2 year old daughter (whom I love and adore competly) and we are having a son this august. We do our best to be respectful, open and honest, while also remembering to never go to bed upset. A huge rule in my book lol. But as much as we love each other and want to continue the family life we have begun together, I get scared. My parents married young and I fear that if I do as well I will end up divorced like them. Are there any tips for newly weds or just simple wisdom to remember during tough times ahead? Thank you everyone!
2007-04-21 09:04:09 · 8 answers · asked by PiX iE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes it could if ur relly in luv if not it wont work at all
2007-04-21 09:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by lil pimp ^ on here 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always remember that the very concept of marriage, all other living/relationship/financial situation unchanged, does not at all change your love for one another or the relationship you have. To let a classification define your relationship is self-defeating, as if your love alone doesn't mean enough. Nobody truly knows what's going to happen in the future, meaning age is not the factor concerning when the right time to marry is. The factor is the strength of your love for one another. If you know in your heart that you are to be with this person for the rest of your life, then you are ready to take that leap. Marriage isn't some transformation machine; marriage is defined by the relationship you have. If you'd like to talk more about this and to become more comfortable with your situation, feel free to get in contact with me. My e-mail address is eckm0032@umn.edu.
Heath
2007-04-21 09:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 Never both be angry at the same time. #2 Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. #3 If one of you has to win an argument let it be your mate. #4 If you have to criticize, do it lovingly. #5 Never bring up mistakes from the past. #6 Neglect the whole world rather than each other. #7 Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. #8 At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your life's partner. #9 When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness. #10 It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking...
2007-04-21 09:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your parents didn't work out, doesn't mean you can't. Acknowledge together that there will be bad times (that can't be helped), but that you and he are committed to each other and to the family, and will do what it takes to stay together and get through it. So long as there is love, respect, trust, loyalty, and laughter, things will be more bearable when you know you've got your lover and best friend standing beside you.
2007-04-25 03:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expecting your second child with your long term shack up. Obviously, you are good enough for sex, but apparently, not worth marriage. True, you need not worry about divorce, as long as you never marry. Exactly why AREN'T you folks married?????? You don't need wisdom, you need basic common sense. Get married, or split up. Oh, and for wisdom- Never store garlic next to the butter. EDIT. I apologize. I thought you folks were expecting your SECOND child together. Please excuse an ol fart jumping to a wrong conclusion. When I read your question again, I saw that I was full of crap. (nothing really unusual there) Reading it correctly, I've got to say that you seem quite sensible and mature. But you still should marry very soon. And, remember about the garlic.
2007-04-21 10:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just remember that when the baby gets here, you're going to be on sleep deprivation for about 2 years. Have conversation about who will take what shifts. Be prepared to be tired. When you get tired recognize it as such, and let him know you need to rest. Ask about taking a multi-vitamin after your son is born.
Quit borrowing trouble. You have good things, appreciate and enjoy them.
2007-04-21 11:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work. But I think that maturity and the common love that a couple share, which includes being unselfish, are major factors in making the relationship work. A genuine spiritual component is also important. God will complete the intimate union into which you enter.
2007-04-21 09:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by sokrates 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I GOT MARRIED AT 19 AND BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND FOR 23 YEARS, IT'S HARD, BUT IT DEPENDS ON HOW YOU COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER
2007-04-21 09:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by sonya h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋