my mom found nudy magazines in my 16 year old brothers room, she thinks its perverted, is she right?

Question

I think its normal for a 16 year old to be doing things like this, but shes deeply disturbed by it and she goes through his room to find this stuff, which I also believe isnt right because he needs his own space, she punishes him for this and she feels that shes never wrong when it comes to parenting and nobody can tell her differently, whats your opionion on this and what do you think can be done about it?

Answer 1

Nope, its normal......way normal.

And going thru his stuff will not help things.

Answer 2

All teens are curious about the opposite sex. Your brother's curiosity is very normal.

Your mom is probably worried that looking at these magazines might lead him to experiment sexually before he is really ready.

In a way you are right about him needing his own space, your mom also has an obligation as your parent to be sure you and your brother are not getting into situations you are not mature enough to handle.

As a parent, my children are all grown up, I have to admit I did go through my kids rooms. I normally didn't make a big deal about anything I found, but it would disappear if I felt it was inappropriate for them to have. One time I found marijuana seeds and a pipe in my daughters coat pocket. I don't know for sure it was hers. She could have been holding it for someone else. But microwaved the seeds and cracked the pipe, then tossed between her bed and the wall. She was 18 at the time and didn't believe I had any say so about what she did and didn't do.

I know at times you may feel that your mom over reacts and maybe she does. But is only trying to do the best she can for her children with what she has to work with. Why? Because she loves you!

Answer 3

It is perfectly normal for a 16 year old boy or girl to be looking at nuny magazines. Tell your mom to talk to her doctor, he will explain that is is OK.

It is normal for both men and women to master bate and use aids such as pictures or videos.

She is doing damage to him by punishing him for this. He will think it is not normal and this is not good.

Please have your mother contact someone in the health profession so she can be more at ease with what he is doing.

She can email me if she wants more details and the name of a good physiologist.

Answer 4

It is perfectly normal for boys to be curious...even infatuated with women and their bodies. I agree with you that it's not right for her to be going through his room....he will grow up to not trust and even resent your mom. She doesn't want that to happen. The worst part is you aren't going to be able to convince her otherwise. She will most likely learn on her own, when it's already too late! My mom was like that and we still have many problems to this day and you can't tell her a damn thing-she thinks she is always right!! Good Luck!!

Reassure your brother that there isn't anything wrong with it

Answer 5

How would you feel if your little boy, your baby, has grown up and begun looking at nudy magazines? He's no longer your baby. She may think that she's losing him. Whats next, nudy magazines, dating, going out more, going off to college, marriage, et... This magazine thing is the next step to the fact that he's growing up. Someone needs to sit her down and explain to her that it's normal. She may not listen, but its worth a try.

Answer 6

Coming from a man who started masturbating at the age of 11, it's normal but what you should do is just hide stuff in your brothers room, like hide a watermelon with a hole in it with a picture of Janet Reno glued to it, a massive purple phallus, and fisting porn,. Her reaction will probably be something like the exploding head scene in Scanners. Then your brother can look at chubby chaser porn all the time.

Answer 7

It's your mother's house...she can look through it whenever she likes. However, it is very normal for a 16 year old boy to be interested in this. Hopefully he's getting everything he needs from a magazine and not from the girls at school. He is too young for that!

Answer 8

Your brother needs his own space. His own room where he can do what he wants, when he wants. His own "bubble". Your mom invading his personal space isn't right. It's a breach of privacy and it may cause him to rebel against her & her actions. And looking at pornographic material at 16 is normal. Sure your mom may not like it, but I think every boy/man does it. My fiancee is 29 yrs. old and still looks at the usual Playboys. :-) It's normal male behavior. Nothing wrong with that. I'd rather have my (future) son looking at porn mags rather than going out and getting a bunch of teen girls pregnant. Rather be safe than sorry!!

Answer 9

Kids that are locked down and kept from reality during the teen years tend to make up for it when they finally "escape" the home. They want to experience it all right now. Kids that are allowed to grow up being exposed to the realities of the world are more mature. example is my brother. he felt he was too tied down and went bugnuts at 18 and picked up all sorts of bad habits. When his son was 14, he bought him a subscription to Playboy. My brothers and I are fully obsessed with sex to the point of addiction. His son is very normal and doesn't have this problem. Maybe coincidence, maybe not. Think about the term "preachers daughter" that is not a myth. girls that are tied down tend to s lut it up in young adult life.

Answer 10

Well it is perverted, but it's also human. You're right, it is normal. Like it's normal for a Mother to go into a tirade when others question her ability to parent. It's a phase like any other phase in a child's life, they eventually get over it. However, it would probably be well for Dad to step in and take the reigns on this one.

Answer 11

I feel it is normal for boys this age and younger and even into college to look at these or want to but it's not healthy for them spiritually. This pro-ports to sin, when a boy or man looks at these he is in his heart committing adultery and this is sinful in the eyes of God. I know boys going through puberty and he still is have desires but he needs to redirect this energy to something positive that will result in good and not evil or lust. I would show him in God's word what this results in and ask him if he understands why it is wrong. That is why I teach morality in the church. Good luck and let mom know that she needs too respect his privacy but she always has a duty to teach him right. Women are more then sexual beings. They are humans with minds not just bodies.