i love him.but i feel like there is something missing..i dont know what.he treats me well.hes cute.i just dont know.
2007-04-21 08:18:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i've been feeling depressed all day...i dont know.it feels like somethings missing.did i say that already?
maybe we do to much stuff apart on weekends.where has the magic gone?
how can i get it back.maybe i am just having an off day today...
2007-04-21 08:27:43 · update #1
says the jerk who cant get a GUY or a GIRL (in response to ben dover-total idiot).
ben dover,are you happy knowing that you will grow old alone?
2007-04-21 09:01:12 · update #2
spend time with him doing things you both enjoy
all relationships go through low phases - if it is worth having it is worth working at
good luck
2007-04-21 08:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has the relationship purely consisted of sexual activities? If so, then you may be experiencing a kind of "burnout". Both of you need to pursue activities together which don't involve sex e.g. going to places of special interest, or doing things where you can get to know each other.
Otherwise, you may be experiencing a phenomenon which lesbians term "bed death". Okay, I know you're not a lesbian couple but it makes perfect sense. This stems from two people being "too alike". Relationships require a certain level of anti-homiphily (differences) in order to survive. Differences add spice to a relationship. Heterosexuals have this built in, as males and females are both biologically and psychologically different. Homosexual couples usually invent ways to get round this - usually by dating someone who is physically, racially or psychologically different.
What you need to do is sit down in private (just yourself) and write down a list of what would make a relationship exciting. Also make a list of thoughts which spring to mind when you think of your relationship being boring. Is there anything about being too alike?
Also, what are your feelings about the opposite sex? Are you a bisexual who is predominantly attracted to the opposite sex more than the same sex? (a Kinsey 1 or 2)
2007-04-21 21:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships can be like that for a number of diffrent resons one been maybe you started of great hot and heavy haveing fun and now you have got to the point where there is nothing new and that exciting to try out any more becouse you started of to fast by doing every thing in the begining or maybe he is just not wha u want in that way although u love him he is just not for you no more
2007-04-21 08:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're probably not IN love with him. My friend went through that, too. Her boyfriend was nice, took her all over the world, wasn't abusive. They were together for a few years but there was just something MISSING. She just wasn't feeling blown away and smitten and thinking of marriage. They had run the scale of the relationship and there was nothing else about to happen between them, so she broke up with him and she began dating girls and guys.
2007-04-21 08:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think too many people continually analyse how exciting their relationships are;. Its ok when you are young but when you get older, excitement should be low on your list of priorities.
All you need is someone that loves and respects you and someone you get on with. WOmen love to date bad boys so they can continually have that feeling of "excitiement", then they complain when the person abuses them, cheats on them or whatever.
If you enjoy his company then just enjoy it for what it is. If you genuinely cant stand being with him then finish with him and find someone you're more compatible with, but understand that REAL relationships are not about constant fireworks and thrills and spills but sometimes there are lulls and drab boring periods.
2007-04-21 08:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows, your question is a little vague. The best way to have a fantastic relationship is to be fantastic yourself. Work on you for a bit and exciting individuals will be falling over themselves to get at you!
2007-04-21 09:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by 'H' 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet this is the longest relationship you've had isn't it. And I bet your missing the ups and downs of being single which have been replaced by the steady dependable relationship. I reckon your not bored of him, your just bored of being secure.
2007-04-21 08:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you posted a Q yesterday saying you'd been talking to a guy for 2 days on here & you were in love with him and devastated that he'd gone away.So yes I think it's fair to say you're bored with your boyfriend!
2007-04-21 08:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by munki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him, if he doesn't tick all of the boxes, then what is the point of kidding yourself and leading him on.
2007-04-21 08:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a male that swings both ways?
2007-04-21 08:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Puma Academy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋