I admitted to my new bf that I smoke cigarattes...he is not happy about it but he agree not to make me quit..?

Question

any suggestions from other women smokers on how to keep the peace..I don't want him to leave me, but I don't want to quit smoking either...I guess I want it both ways!!! He does not smoke at all, never has, and never dated a smoker before, HELP PLEASE!!!

Answer 1

Just make sure you always have minty chewing gum to hand and some perfume. Try and go outside when you want a ciggie. You will find that you won't smoke as much as well.

Answer 2

Well..U said New...So He has to know the real u..So If this is part of who u are Then he needs to accept that, Just like u have to accept things about him that are not so attractive. I am a smoker and my husband is not.. When we go to restraunts we sit in non smoking, because that is not fare to him. Also I only smoke in our Computer room Downstairs not in the house. I suggest since u just told him to occasionally smoke around him. Such as If u go to a movie don't smoke in the car have a couple hits on the walk up if u need one.. Also Use perfume. gum . ect.. Once He gets used to it a bit more it wont be horrible for him. Besides I am sure he has been around smokers before ..He just hasn't dated one. He also said he wasn't going to make u quit (although I hope that u wouldn't quit for anyone except yourself).. Don't worry about it.. If he decides he cannot be with u because u smoke then He either is not the one or u need to stop smoking...... He will get used to it I am sure......

Answer 3

Dont pollute his environment. Smoke outside or in the garage. Just respect his need for clean air. Dont wear the same clothes you smoked a lot in around him. Brush your teeth and use mouth wash, chew minty gum. Dont smoke in your car, that'll totally turn him off. Smoke outside your car before you get in. You'll still stink when you get in but its much better than smoking in the car.

Best advice would be to quit, but as a smoker I know thats so much easier said than done. Its such a crappy crappy habit. I wish I would at least attempt to quit the filthy killing me a little bit everyday, expensive, embarrassing, gee I love my new cough and yellow teeth habit.

Good luck.
Cough cough

Answer 4

Please try to stop smoking! It will be the best thing you've ever done for your health. I know it's not easy; I quit two times before I stopped smoking for good. (It'll be 15 years next MLK Day).

Have you ever thought that your bf might become turned off kissing you? Many nonsmokers say that kissing a smoker is like licking a dirty ashtray.

Also, what if you want to marry this guy and have children with him? Smoking and pregnancy definitely do not mix.

Answer 5

Have you two kissed? I had a boyfriend when I used to smoke (Ive quit now, not because of him though) and he told me that when he kissed me it was like kissing an ashtray
I know you dont want to quit but dont smoke around him then Im sure you can manage that and try not to reek of the smell when you are with him. Its a big turn off for people who hate it.
Lots of mint gum...

Answer 6

You need to have an honest discussion with him about smoking. You see, I used to be in your boyfriend's shoes. I dated a girl who said she had quit smoking, and then later I found out she hadn't. I told her that smoking was a deal-breaker for me, so she promised never to smoke again. Then she lied to me again about having quit. Eventually, I had to beat it into her head that being honest with me was the best policy, and that I'd be a lot more tolerant if she'd just be honest. She finally got it. I wasn't happy with her smoking, but at least she was being honest with me about it. However, she continued to tell me that she intended to quit at some point, but she wouldn't lie to me anymore about quitting when she really hadn't.

If smoking is a deal breaker with your boyfriend, and you have no intention of quitting, then you and he need to have a talk. You need to figure out what the chances are that you're really going to quit, and what the chances are that he'll stay with you in spite of your smoking. If you don't have this talk, it could cause bigger problems on down the line. Just be honest with him.

Answer 7

oh good grief hunny if he's that hard to please to keep the peace then you need to find a new man. my bf smokes, first time for doing that, and i don't smoke. i tried to make him quit at first but then i gave up. now i just tea.se him about it on occasion. an your man will either let it ride or you need to let him slide. . .right between your fingers for someone better.

Answer 8

The best way to keep the peace and to keep your new bf (who probably will not be worth the trouble in the long run) would be to quit smoking.
It is a nasty, dirty, smelly, gross habit that can KILL you and the people you love (second hand smoke is more harmful)
Not to mention that it is increasingly expensive

Answer 9

Cigarette breath is PRETTY DAMN GROSS to a non-smoker! You're going to have to REALLY smoke a lot less around him if you want kisses! I was a smoker too when I met my husband, and he put up with me for years, but I finally decided, that enough is enough, and it's time to QUIT, for myself, my husband, and NOW our beautiful daughter too! It's just not worth it. NOT to mention lung cancer. I watched my best friend's husband die of lung cancer 2 years ago, and THAT was MY deciding factor. Good luck with everything! =)

Answer 10

Sorry no answers for keeping peace, but maybe you could ask yourself, 'is it that i dont WANT to stop or CANT stop'. My wife says the same thing still even though she's had a stroke and other med problems plague her. It's addiction.but no ranting. GB

Answer 11

I know it's not the answer you're looking for, but smoking is one of the worst things you could possibly do to yourself. Quitting is advisable. If it has the benefit of saving your relationship, awesome. But quit for yourself.