am i such a bad person.why can't i have my chance at being a mom?

Question

after more than 7 years of trying for a baby i'm starting to think that.what have i done to this world.am i being punished or something.what is wrong with me.why can't i get pregnant.we recently went to a fertility clinic and they told us that we were fertile.he prescribed clomid to boost my fertility.i'm starting to think that i should get a second opinion.if i'm fertile than why does it take that long to get pregnant.i must have done something really horrible in life to not to get that beautiful chance to get pregnant.anyone ever felt that way?

i think about hoping to get pregnant,look at ovulation calendars and read about pregnancy symptoms but i don't think i stress about it too much.i do hope a lot.is it too much to hope

Answer 1

First off, you might be unable to conceive because you are stressing out about it. I know that it is hard not to get upset, especially since you are trying so hard, for so long. Sometimes though, that can actually inhibit ovulation. I would definitely try the Clomid, it has been proven to have great results. Good luck!

Answer 2

I too had trouble getting pregnant and after 5 years finally did. I was on Clomid too at age 31 and 35. Are you doing your basal metabolic temperature to tell when you are ovulating? I would think you are if you are going to a fertility clinic.
Some friends of mine adopted a child because they couldn't have one and then a couple years later they were pg. Then again. So you do have a chance. With some of us it just takes longer.
I think we appreciate our kids more and have more fun with them.
I don't think anything you do or did would cause you to have problems. Just keep trying only not too hard.
Getting a second opinion is always a good idea.

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel ! My husband and I tried for 10 years to get pregnant. We fought over it and eventually it tore us apart. To my surprise 4 weeks after we filed for a divorce In 2005 I found out I was pregnant ! The stress of trying so hard is what we believe kept us from getting pregnant . It was as if the moment we stopped trying to get pregnant I was ! We are now the proud parents of a beautiful 19 month old little girl!

Let me tell you, We are now pregnant with our second little girl she is due in September 2007 ! The pressure from family to get pregnant can be overwhelming ! I suggest a get away for a few day just the two of you and forget about trying to get pregnant for a while ! I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason and that God will give us what wee need when he is ready!

Relax, and good luck !

Answer 4

Stess can seem to have a damper on ovulation dates, but if your not stressing, then just keep trying. Im going through the same thing. i am thinking of seeing a fertility doc too, but am really unsure of how much the treatments cost. I would say take the meds. If you want a child as much as you seem to, you will do all you can to boost fertility. Being fertile doesnt mean that you are very fertile, as far as i understand. Just keep trying and good luck to you sweetie. God will bless you when its your time.

Answer 5

I think you should get a second opinion as well.

While I have been lucky enough to have children- the road has not been easy- I have lost more children then have lived and I know the feeling of "what am I doing wrong"??

Clomid has done a lot for many people, but I'm sure you would like answers as well- keep seeking them.

Answer 6

Hun I'm sorry you are going through this! Don't blame yourself though, there is nothing that you did or could have done in life that would cause you not to deserve to get pregnant. I don't know if you are religious or not...but God works in mysterious ways, you have to trust and have faith that he knows what is best. God knows the true desires of your heart, don't give up!! Sometimes it just takes a long time to get pregnant. My aunt tried for 11 years!..and when she finally got pregnant she was blessed with twin girls, God has a plan for your life....just never give up hope and keep trying!!!! I'll be praying for ya!

Answer 7

From the holy book, interpretation of the meaning: 'To some, He bestows only males, to some only females, to some He gives both males and females, yet to some he doesn't give any. Mighty is He, who is in the heavens'.
God has a reason for everything. Do not lose hope, keep praying but know that if u have no child, it doesn't mean u've done something bad but that God sees that as the best for you for now. I'm with u in prayer.

Answer 8

what about your husband has he been tested
don't think you have done something wrong
if that was true than this world will be infertile
it just that your time has not come yet
try having sex every other day
see an acupuncturist
sometimes the smallest things work
I am trying fertile aids and CLOMIDS
I have gotten pregnant but had 3 miscarriages
GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

Honey dont beat yourself up. My stepmom tried for 16 years and finally had a baby once they started fertility shots. Its still took a while once they started them, but they did have 2 babies.

I think that stressing over it can also cause you to have troubles with conception

Good luck I will be praying for you

Answer 10

Stop trying. The stress alone could be having this effect. My husband and I tried for years to have a child. It was so depressing. I finally decided that I was not meant to have children. I stopped trying and started to enjoy life as it was. Two months later, I was pregnant. So, my advice to you is to relax and enjoy life. Getting pregnant is great, but a lot of fun can be had in the trying. :)