i used to enjoy this with my bf...but we have been thru so much BS that my feelings have changed... since having my last child.. i am not interested in doing it at all...the thought is not at all apealling any more. i wonder if its my hormones .. or is it that i just lost all interest in my guy? i have no interest in sex at all. dont want it ..dont want to give it... HELP!! how do i get over these feelings...will i get over it.
please dont say to see a doctor because she says there isnt anything they can give me...it just takes time after having a kid..but its been over 7 months now.
also...boyfriend has cheated in the past ... i think that may be a part of it too.
2007-04-21 06:18:40 · 8 answers · asked by sylonthego 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
someone said i should lose weight...but i never said i was fat..and i am not by the way.... i am 135 lbs at 5 ft 6 and look pretty damn good ... my self esteem is not lacking .. i think i am just over the whole relationship thing. if i leave this one...i just want to be single and happy again like i was prior to all this drama...
2007-04-21 09:28:28 · update #1
I think you are going through what most women call post pardum depression. I would also come to the conclusion you do not want to get pregnant again that can shut down the whole sex scenario as well. I'm actually surprised that you would have kids with someone that has cheated on you. If that is not a red flag for most people that the person doesn't care for you or respect your feelings I don't know what is?.
I think it may be best just to move on This guy has already shown you once that he doesn't care about feelings and even if you have kids together being in a loveless non- commital relationship is not the best picture to paint for your kids either.
I know this guy has been there for you and you have had his kids. Really if you are unhappy why stay and put the kids through your misery staying with this cheating butthead.
I would also mention that maybe you have some past issues with him or just in your life you haven't resolved and your just not in the place in your life to enjoy sex with your mate. Maybe some one-one counselling could help you figure out what is going on cause sometimes something from your past that you have bottled up starts oozing out, and well this is what you get!
God Bless and Best Wishes.
2007-04-21 08:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cheating may have some part in it, but not as much as you may think.
This may just be a phase you're going through. Cliche as it may sound.
Also experiment. Try new things. Toys. Oils. Maybe that will get you stimulated.
2007-04-21 06:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Deseray [4.1.2010] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to relax & enjoy your new baby You are probably worn out & could sleep for a week. I think a lot of it is hormonal I'm in Menopause so I don't have a huge desire either. Are we freaks? Just to folks who don't understand Stand Tall!
2007-04-21 06:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by hobo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I need more research for my scientific study that contact with metal on the left fourth carpal digit leads to a significant decrease in oral stimulation.
2007-04-21 06:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only give bj's when your heart is into it. Dump your boyfriend and find a new guy. Then your love of bj's will come back and everyone will be happy.
2007-04-21 06:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some exercise, lose a few pounds, get some
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Start riding a bicycle or hiking or something..
2007-04-21 06:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheats on you, won't marry you, yet you keep having his kids? How deep do you want to dig your own grave before it just collapses on you?
Blow jobs are the least of your problems.
2007-04-21 07:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
he CHEATED !!, even if you want to have ex, don't do it, he doesn't deserves it
2007-04-21 06:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋