our sex life realy isn't that great to begin with. So when we do have sex it's alway's when he want's it, when I try to get him in the mood he alway's tells me he's tired. and he never waits for me to finish.
2007-04-21 05:37:16 · 23 answers · asked by j vantes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
refuse when he's in the mood and tell him that as long as he doesn't take your feelings into consideration, you wont take his into consideration.
2007-04-21 05:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by rt1290 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He may not be able to cotrol himself and if that be so there is medicine for such problem. Also, if he truly loves you, he is suppose to make sure you are satisfied, too, as u are to make sure he is, too. Marriage is a give and take. When one is selfish in anyway, it will harm the relationship. Like some husbands, he may not know these things. So do what I did, buy some good (decent) books on the subject and stick them under his nose. Yes, I know he probably wont want to read them. 'I'VE BEEN THERE', but let him know in no uncertain terms that he is best to read those books if he wants you to stay married to him. When he sees how serious you are, he will read them. Now if he is a really stubborn man, tell him that you feel that you both need to go to counseling to get some understanding about your sexual life. Honey, most men are too proud to let another man know that he isnt living up to his performances in the bedroom. That should get him to read the books. There are some really good dvd and vhs tapes on the subject by John Gray that would be good for both of you to watch. I learned quite a bit about how the male mind THINKS and WHY men think and do things and it covers how the female mind THINKS and WHY we think and do things. And there's a good book by Dr. James Dobson on the subject, too.
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I've made it 35 yrs now and the seond half has been better than the first half.....thanks to good books on marrial relationships and mucch prayer. I found out that marriage really does take THREE*** I call the Lord the superglue!
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2007-04-21 06:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears your with a man who is very selfish and is putting his desires befroe pleasuring his own wife. I would tell him next time you feel tired and even when you are in the mood he is not receptive into giving you an orgasm which is sad. I love making love to my wife just to see the pleasure on her face even if it takes an hour.
I would also wonder if he is this selfish to fulfill his needs if he is getting it elsewhere, and that is why he is always tired when you bring it up?.
I hope you can bring to the reality that the art of lovemaking in marriage is so both people are receiving pleasure not just one person. You need to tell him when it comes to sex he is a controlling selfish p r i c k.
2007-04-21 06:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's pretty selfish. Do you point this out to him ? The next time he wants it, tell him you're tired. If he complains, point out to him that he tells you he's tired when you want it.
And when you get it on, stop just short before he finishes, that will drive him nuts. Once again, remind him that he doesn't wait for you to finish either.
After all, perhaps you and he can start treating each other lovingly and respectfully. Your sex life will improve dramatically.
2007-04-25 02:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to get better sex is to communicate and tell him that you are frustrated after having sex with him because you are not getting pleased. You need to tell him what you like and how you like it. Make it fun. Tell him I will do this to you if you do this to me. Make him wait for intercourse and tell him you cannot have this unless you do this. In the heat of the moment he might do what you want. If you keep you mouth closed and not tell him what is happening he will never have a clue and he will continue to do what he has been doing.
2007-04-21 06:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited 17 years to hearken to my husband say the words "i such as you". adult men do only not choose to be susceptible, so as that they don't regularly say mushy issues. that's a real ordinary grievance, so U R not on my own in this one. Is your hubby a truck motive force to be away plenty? Too undesirable approximately the different woman. adult men could be so careless each and every each and every now and then. If U R continually asserting to him "i like U" then he feels enjoyed and wanted, and he's not apprehensive approximately asserting it lower back to U. He knows that he has U in his lower back pocket. lower back off slightly and stop being so obvious. If that would not help, then in step with probability U could desire to have a deep communicate with him. Ask him choose he needs that he's not getting from the relationship? If he cheats on U lower back U will particularly have issues. Lay down the regulation on that one. tell him if he provides U a disease there'll be severe complication for him. sturdy success
2016-11-26 02:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question that I have for you is what are you not getting and what do you give him
1. Don't give him oral until he satisfies you first
2.When ******* You be on top so before he cums pull away from him and then go back at it
He is not being a very good partner
Shame on him, does he not realize that the more he pleases you the more he will be pleased??????
2007-04-21 06:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by letshavesomefun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex life sucks then. Isn't this something you worked out before getting married? I only have a girlfriend, not even a wife yet, and I still have to put in work to let her get hers and sometimes stall mine until that happens. It helps that I am a multi-orgasmic male but still. Sheesh!
2007-04-21 05:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rothwyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who has the same problem, and she has her toys and at times will just cut him off with she gets really tired of his attitude. Have you talked to him about this? Maybe you could get some outfits, lingerie, sexy nurse, naughty school girl, etc; try and spice it up. My wife's job is time consuming and stressful, often times when she gets home I'll give her a massage, rub her feet, and gently caress her. This does wonders to get both of us aroused.
2007-04-21 06:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by Carl J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 options
hard option - divorce. get a man who cares
easier option - talk to him and try to make him care
easiest option - battery operated boyfriend. it's not done until you are done or until the batteries run out. never says "no" and won't let you down
here's a fourth option that might not work too well for you. find a man on the side. that one can be all about the sex and nothing else and you can still get everything else at home with your husband.
2007-04-21 05:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is just plain selfish in the sack. You need to confront him on this issue because if it continues you will lose your desire for sex permanently. If he wasn't getting his rocks off during sex he wouldn't be still having sex with you. Either he gets help, there is medical treatment options, he can talk to his buddies to learn how to delay cumming, or you can take on a lover and get your needs met by someone who actually cares about what's in it for you. Anyway, I wouldn't hang around with this loser unless he tries to please you. How about oral sex him on you? Or the very least he could use the vibrator on you to get you off.
2007-04-21 05:51:59 · answer #11 · answered by TERI Sexton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋