I'm just numb to my wifes nagging. Is there a way to make it stop short of divorce?
2007-04-21 05:27:53 · 8 answers · asked by taotemu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been in counseling off and on for most of our marriage. It helps for a day or two than she is right back at it. I don't have much faith in it anymore.
2007-04-21 05:34:33 · update #1
You might try listing, and taking action. Blaming your wife for nagging means you are putting the problem onto her.
If she is nagging you, she's doing so because she feels that you're not listing, and apparently you were not.
Ask yourself why aren't listing, why are you putting your self ahead of her and your marriage.
I don't believe that you have to do everything she says or everything she wants you to do. But you do have to engage in a real discussion with her about topics that matter to her.
Unless you learn to do this, and can come to the table as an adult in a real way to talk to her, your marriage is doomed.
2007-04-21 05:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. My soon to be ex doesn't take ANY accountability for her actions. She always said that she acted a certain way in RESPONSE to the way someone else acted. During our marriage, she would ask me a question and I would tell her what I thought. If she didn't like what my response to the question was, she wouldn't tell me how she felt about it.
I would suggest major counseling, at least 2x per week for a few months, then you can go 1x per week for a while, then once every few weeks.
We never made it to couseling. I ended up going by myself. It was very beneficial to me.
Here is a website that I found when I was trying to make my marriage better.
www.marriagebuilders.com
2007-04-21 05:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mark M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter to tell her about her nagging and how it hurts you. At the end of the letter tell her if she doesn't stop the next letter she will get from you will be a copy of divorce papers.
2007-04-21 18:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by lisaraye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out the book 'Rescue your love life, changing those dumb attitudes & behaviors that will sink your marriage' by Dr. Henry Cloud. The first chapter- had some great ideas about making changes that helped my situation. Hang in there!
2007-04-21 06:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by Janel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you need to bypass to couples treatment back. men have a difficult time expressing what they sense even as they sense it and in result, they withold sex to "punish" you. i imagine you need to truly imagine about why you obtain married contained in the first position once you had difficulty formerly marriage. And were you waiting to scrub up those issues? yet in case you probably did not - then do you need to be bowled over you're in this predicament now. there is not any longer something extra effectual to heal a wedding ceremony than communique and honesty. The honesty may suck at circumstances, even if that's extra effectual stated than held decrease back and enable it brew. B/c once you it brews, such issues as witholding sex is the outcome in certain circumstances.
2016-12-04 10:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To those who understand, no explaination is required.
To those who do NOT understand, no explaination is possible.
With that said, you may be fighting a losing battle. (or she may feel that she is)
If you have any common ground at all, that would be your starting point for communication. The other factor is
COMPROMISE. And that's something that will (again)require effort from you both. Good Luck! ;)
2007-04-21 05:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two words for you--marriage counsellor.
2007-04-21 05:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her, remember it's your happiness.
2007-04-21 05:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by jennylo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋