I have a turn-on that my wife doesn't share. I love talking about it, watching it, etc. and I would love for her to at least think about it. She knows about it and knows I'd like her to participate. It doesn't involve her in a sexual act...nothing perverse or demeaning. *From a previous post, I gather I need to disclose it. It's wrestling. Watching two women wrestle competitively.* How persistent should I be before I just totally give up? I don't want to annoy her, but I want her to know to know how much I would enjoy seeing her do it. This is my fantasy and my wife is my dream girl. It makes sense to me...
2007-04-21 04:32:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I still stick by the answer I gave to the original question. It could well work. You may also try to find out what it is she doesn't like about the idea...as it is wrestling it could be that she is afraid of getting hurt or perhaps she wouldn't want other people watching her. Explain the appeal about it one time (plant the seed), on rare occasion (rare, not too often or it will be nagging and pressure) it could come up in conversation (female wrestling, not in the context of her wrestling)...if you do manage to find out what her objection is you could try to guide her curiosity towards a direction where it may not be so far out of her comfort zone. As my husband would say the key is not to make her feel pushed into it, but more of a carrot dangled in front of her...you have to figure how to make her want to go after the carrot.
2007-04-21 04:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Starshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adam Dear Dear Adam.
Some people just do not enjoy wrestling. And fewer still would have any interest in being a competitive woman wrestler.
No you don't have to "give up?" Ask her to sit on the sofa with you as you watch women's wrestling. She doesn't Have To watch too.... she could read a book and occasionally look up at the screen.
Your wife is your dream girl. But you admit that this is your fantasy... and sometimes fantasy's don't necessarily have to be acted out.
2007-04-21 04:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 19:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two women wresting? And you want her to do it? Apparently she isn't interested, and she isn't going to be interested. What's in it for her?? Are you the only one getting pleasure out of it? If so, give it up. Sex has to be a two-way street. Both people have to feel like they're getting something out of it.
Try this. Ask her if she wants to watch you wrestle a naked guy. Is that a turn-on for you? If not, then you know exactly how she feels when you suggest the same thing for her.
2007-04-21 04:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ann Toozie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a fantasy does not mean that you can expect your wife to take up wrestling! She should wrestle you right off the bed and into the floor!
2007-04-21 04:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
If your fantasy involves her wrestling another woman, then of course she isn't going to do it. The thought of another woman being apart of her man's fantasy would make her somewhat angry.
Now if the wrestling involves just you and her. Then I can't see nothing wrong with that. Any body to body contact with your significant other is very stimulating and somewhat erotic. My husband and I wrestle all the time, but for some reason he always win (only because I let him, ;-).
2007-04-21 04:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by zianneaaliyah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA AHA You butt head . Hell just set up a mud pit in the back yard get a few beers invite some friends over and let the fun begin . You may have to throw the first mud ball . When i was younger are family would have a mud fight once every spring when it got warm just to bring in the new summer it was a blast
2007-04-21 04:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should be that persistant. Your fixation on a fantasy, and the idea that your fantasy has to be fulfilled is a dangerous precedent to set. Statistically speaking, it will take more and more outrageous behavior to satisfy you each time.
My suggestion: focus on how the two of you can please each other in real life, and get rid of your fantasy life...neither you nor your wife can live up to each other's fantasies; they just make you unhappy with each other!
2007-04-21 04:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by NorthvilleNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave it alone if she doesnt want to some women are different so you could push her away without realizing it, relly its not a bad fantasy ive heard worse , maybe she feeld threaatened by it, you should ask her and explain yourself if you do anything. then ler her think about it and dont push it maybe she will come around in time. reassure her in a positive way,
2007-04-21 04:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by freeflow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be persistent. You asked her and she said no...why be persistent? Do you want to force wear her down to force her to do something that she really does not want to do? Back off.
2007-04-21 04:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by Challenge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋