If I pick an uglier guy to date, would the chances of him cheating on me be lower?

Answer 1

Well, that I can answer.
I have heard many women follow that idea, that turns out to be TOTALLY wrong. This last part, I don't know why.
For some reason that so far I have not been able to figure out, the most beautiful women choose the ugliest guys.
I know, it makes no sense. I cannot understand it myself

Answer 2

First of all you should look at what it is about you, or what it is that you are doing wrong that would make someone want to cheat on you in the first place.
If you come to the conclusion that you are perfect in this, and it couldn't possiblly be you that has a problem, you should then wake yourself up from that dream and face reality.
The reality is that if you go into ANY relationship assuming that the other person will cheat, you are already accusing them of doing so. Now, I don't know about you, but it has been my experience that if you are going to be stingy with your trust, and accuse people of things, it will not take long before they run out and do exactly what you were afraid they were going to do in the first place.
What you need to do is let go. Get to know the person for WHO THEY ARE, not what they look like. Give them room to breathe. Everyone makes mistakes, but if you start out with mistrust and accusations, you will end in an affair.
If a man wants to cheat, he will. There is nothing you can do but trust that you are who and what he wants. If not, then I guess that will just have to be his loss. But don't give him the "green light" by beginning with no trust and accuations.

Answer 3

Firstly you need to ask yourself what ugly is. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. At the end of the day a typically more attractive person may have more opportunities to cheat but may not accept them. Someone who you may consider less attractive may not be able to resist extra attention or might have a very attractive personality which could give them a lot of offers. Cheating can depend on the morals of a person or how they handle situations they may not expect to find themselves in. Every person is different and so is every situation. Beautiful or 'ugly' if someone's going to cheat they will. They just better hope I dont find out if they cheated on me! lol

Answer 4

It does not matter one bit if he appears ugly to you or not, but if you are worried that a guy will cheat on you, he will. You can take that to the bank, it is guaranteed. Psychically, you are feeding him with the thought. It is part of the science of deliberate creation and the law of attraction, what you focus on you attract, whether you wanr it or not. Just start thinking about what you DO want instead of making your own life miserable.

Answer 5

Not necessarily. Guys seem to be blind when it comes to themselves. If he can get one beautiful girl (you) then he may think that he can get more and more beautiful girls and be a cheater anyway. Maybe not, but physical appearance isn't necessarily a predictor of good or bad behaviour.

As Dr. Phil says "the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour."

So if you know he's been a pig in the past, don't think that you can change him.

Answer 6

Your concern about cheating exponentially increases your chance of a relationship marred in someway by the thought of cheating no matter what your man looks like.

Answer 7

I don't think so. If he is an honest person he will never cheat regardless of his looks and if he is a dishonest person then he will find a way to cheat no matter what you do.

Answer 8

Possibly! There are many variables that factor into one's pre disposition to cheat or not. A lot of study has been conducted on this issue for the last 30 years.
STATISTICALLY it shows that the chances of some one "cheating" on their s/o do increase when they are more attractive and have more money!

It can NOT however be a given that a less then attractive person will NOT cheat.
Point in case is my Ex...he was UGLY! Well...I mean that he was not physically attractive! I was so perplexed as to who would sleep with him besides me! But if I did...then I guess that some one else perhaps would also find him attractive enough to sleep with. As it turned out...the girl that he cheated on me with was pretty un attractive too...not to seem conceited but I am kinda attractive...definetley more than she is..but that had nothing to do with it apparently!
I did a lil research into this matter and this is what I came up with...
Check it out and you will find that being physically attractive DOES make some one more predisposed to cheating! But dating an "uglier" guy will not ensure that he won't cheat on you...there are loads of other factors that will play into it.
Good luck on your hunt for a good man!!!

hope this helps!


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What factors influence an individual's willingness to cheat?

Attractiveness


All things being equal, an individual’s attractiveness influences how likely he or she is to cheat. Attraction comes in many different forms – it is influenced by one’s physical appearance, one’s social skills, and one’s tangible resources (money). The more one is in demand, the more likely one is to cheat. People, who have higher incomes, more education, and successful careers, are more likely to cheat than people who are less successful. And physical attractiveness also plays an important role (see, face of a cheater - Lying and Cheating Blog).


Opportunity


Again, all things being equal, the more individual free time people have the more likely they are to cheat. Couples who have separate social lives, friends, careers, travel plans, and so on are much more likely to cheat than couples who spend most of their time together. The more opportunity people have to cheat, the greater the odds that cheating will occur.


Risk Taking


People who like to take risks or have a sense of adventure are more likely to cheat than people who are more fearful or timid by nature. And there is most likely a genetic component involved in risk-taking behavior - some people may be predisposed to taking risks (see, understanding genetics).


Sexual Desire


Sexual desire varies from person to person. Some people have a very high sex drive while other people are much less concerned or interested in sex. And people with a high, rather than low, sex drive are more likely to cheat. Again, sexual desire appears to be influenced by genetic factors. Some people are inherently more easily aroused and driven by their desire for sex than other people (see, webMD). People who have multiple affairs are often addicted to the novelty and excitement which infidelity can provide (also see, coolidge effect).


Attitude Toward Love and Romance

Some people view love and romance as a sacred bond between two individuals. Other people see love as a game, where the goal is to manipulate another individual and gain emotional power over a partner (see, ludus and lovefraud). People who view love as a game are much more likely to have multiple love interests; cheating is just another way to gain control over one's spouse.
Relational Problems


As problems emerge in a relationship, people are more likely to cheat. Infidelity is more common in relationships where people feel misunderstood, under appreciated and where fighting and bickering is common (see, evaluate your relationship).


Sense of Entitlement

Some people, due to their position in society, their beliefs about gender roles, or their cultural upbringing, believe that it is their right to cheat on their partners. In other words, some people believe that cheating is a privilege to which they are entitled. Such individuals, philanders, often engage in infidelity with little guilt or remorse."

Answer 9

No. Looks have nothing to do with it in my experience.

Fidelity and monogamy are based a person's personal views and their respect for the person that they are with.

I would be more concerned if someone engages in behaviour that lowers a person's inhibitions -- like drugs, or alcohol.

Answer 10

no, a guys loyalty has nothing to do with how he looks. It doesn' matter who you date, the guy will have to EARN your respect and trust, if you give those away easily, you are in for some soggy pillow nights somewhere down the road.