What if the neagtive effects of coming out (e.g. lose relationship with family and friends, colleagues etc.) actually outweigh any positive effects to you of coming out (e.g. personal freedom, able to live life how you want).?
2007-04-21 03:35:41 · 17 answers · asked by Redneck Scum 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes. For help I suggest you try Pastor Fred Phelps at Westboro Baptist Church in Topeka, Kansas. His Phone number at the church is 785-273-0325. I hope he can help you.
2007-04-22 09:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by hunkra2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your life , and you only get one. What would be the point of trying to pretend to be someone your not? I'm not saying that your sexual orientation is even something that defines who you are , unless that's how you choose to portray it. If your family or friends don't want to accept you for who you are , then they are truly missing out on what could be an amazing person. If you do decide to finally come out , and if your reactions are negative and un-supportive , don't lose faith. Someone will come along who will love you for you and not have issues of concern with the way you choose to live your life.
2007-04-21 11:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by ew molly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In spite of the positive effects, I'm sure a lot of people have lived and died without coming out of the closet.
2007-04-21 10:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by cidyah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are many ways to waste a life... If you lose friendships over being who you really are, they are only friends with the facade you built for yourself... These are the friends you need to lose anyway... You will quickly find better people to rely on... To me, at some point, your life takes priority over your family's expectations for your life... Take control... You'll be surprised how people will react... And better to know than wonder, I think...
2007-04-21 10:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is based on a false assumption.
You cannot have close relationships with family and friends without honesty and coming out is ultimately about being honest with those that we care about.
2007-04-21 16:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can stay in the closet. You can even marry and have children and really ruin some poor woman's life. Or you can just stay single---and that alone will make people suspect that you are gay..when you are 50 and single.
2007-04-21 10:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who do this are less than dirt. I don't care if you don't wanna campaign door-to-door for gay rights, but at least have the backbone to seize your own happiness in life. Your thought process is the mindset of a coward, sneaking around in the shadows because you are ashamed. Are you going to let the world tell you who you are?
2007-04-21 11:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by lordwashu13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd rather loose my family and friends and get new ones than stay in the closet my whole life...
2007-04-21 10:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rionoir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it possible....but that would mean that nobody would really know the real you....so it would kinda be like lying to your friends and family....i would rather lose my friends and make new ones than stay "in the closet" my whole life...
2007-04-22 00:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by cdr dsw = <3 [11/1/10] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never told my family or friends that i am gay, but am sure most have figured it out without me telling them and i am 40 yrs old. So yes you can go without coming out. I am perfectly happy with myself and my life!!
2007-04-24 11:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by ziggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋