i am a 21 year old mother of 1 gorgeous little boy and i am married to a fantastic man. yes my life sounds perfect but ever since i have given birth to my son, all i do is think negative. i worry about his future like will he be popular etc. i stress about how much attention gets paid not only too me but also my son and my husband. sometimes i stress and think that we are not liked and all kinds of thoughts - ALWAYS NEGATIVE. i feel like i have no friends and when i go to talk to people i think to myself that they dont like me (i think this for no reason at all)this is all very frustrating. negative thinking is taking over my life, i want to live a happy, care free life with my family. This is driving me insane. at a time in my life when i am supposed to be happiest i am actually quite miserable. i am on 21 this should not be happening to me.
2007-04-21 03:34:46 · 18 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, realx. Take a deep breath and just let it go.
This is your first child, and as a parent, I can tell you that you are going to worry and wonder and have these "negative' feelings. They are not negative feelings, they are feelings that every parent has, as they only want the best for their child and stress about how to provide the best for thier kids.
Now, for the second part, I believe you may be going through a form of post-partum depression. It is common in women, in fact Brook Shields went through it and has written a book on it, as well as become a spokesperson for it. I think you should talk to your doctor about it. He/she will be able to help you with the depression.
You have a young family. You are only 21 really just getting started in this world. It can be very stressful handling, home, kids, husband, friends, and everything else the world can throw at you.
Take comfort in the friends you have. They do not look down on you, and they have been there in the past, and will continue to be there for you now. Talk with your husband. Fill him in on what you are feeling. Together, I am sure you can work through this and maintain a positive atmosphere in your home.
If you want to change your way of thinking, you have to make some changes in your life. Instead of doing the same old thing day after day, try to get out and do diferent things. Make it a point to learn something new everyday. Even if it is only doing a crossword puzzle. You will learn new words, or new ways of saying things.
If you focus on things you would like to do in life, you will have no time to think about the things that are weighing you down. They will still be there, but if you do it right, you wiull see that there is a time to worry and a time to let it go.
Set a schedule for yourself. Set aside a 1 hour block of time to deal with bills. Once the hour is past, put all the bills away and don't get them out again until your next scheduled block of time. Set aside at least 2 hours in your day for you and your child. Go to a park, take him for a walk, whatever.
Most importantly, you need to set aside time for YOU. When your husband gets home, ask him to take your son for 30 minutes or so. Go to another room and unwind. You need to recharge, too, and this time alone will help you. You can do anything you want, read a book, take a bath, nap, as long as you have "You" time.
Good luck
2007-04-21 04:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get into some kind of counseling and get some help with all your that your feeling. Please don't wait, make an appointment and get in and talk with some one.
It sounds as though you have a wonderful husband and beautiful child and at 21 you should feel like you have the world by the tail so to speak. In other words every thing should be awesome. You may just need a little help getting back on the right track.
Maybe there is a part of you that is feeling over whelmed by every thing. Please see your doctor and have him/her set you up with an appointment to talk with some one, but do have a good check up first with your own doctor and let him know how your feeling.
Be well and at peace and see your doctor and get some help so that you can get past this. I hope you feel better soon.
2007-04-21 03:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be post partum. See a doctor. Or could be normal anxiety. My sister-in-law has the same concerns. She is also a young mother. She was constantly worrying and negative right after giving birth. She saw a doctor about it. Good luck!
2007-04-21 03:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see your doctor or a therapist. You should also consider rethinking your values in life. Worrying whether or not he is popular? Come on! There are more important things in life than being well liked.
2007-04-21 03:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not post partum is it? You've probably thought about all of this before having a kid, so something's changed. Get therapy, it can help. You don't have to be depressed in life.
2007-04-21 03:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what i do i take one day at a time and i could careless if any one like me or talk to me i tell you i not going to lose any sleep over that and how can you lose a friend that you never had change your way of life at 21 you should be having fun
2007-04-21 03:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 10:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying doesn't solve anything. Don't stress over what may or may not happen, if something does happen, cross that bridge when you get to it. Enjoy today for what it brings and tomorrow will take care of itself.
2007-04-21 03:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does sound like depression. Get help & just do what you know is right & good in your daily life so there's nothing for anyone to find fault with!
2007-04-21 03:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by yoohoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor and talk to him about this. I got this way while pregnant with my son and they put me on medication and I can tell you....life got rosier...it was nice (not because of the meds but because I felt like myself again).
2007-04-21 04:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋