I am not sure if I am pregnant, and I won't tell him until I am one hundred percent sure, but I'm about 90 percent sure so that's why I"m asking. How do I tell this guy if I am? We dated, everything was awesome, and he dropped me like a bad habit. He said he's ready to settle down, just not with me. And he thinks that I'm a wierdo because I express myself through letters and don't hold any of my feelings back. So basically I am most likely pregnant by a guy who I think would want to be apart of the baby's life and maybe mine but he doesn't answer the phone when I call. We do work in the same store but that is no place to tell someone that you're having their baby!
2007-04-21 02:58:52 · 34 answers · asked by ForestGirl20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh damn. Didn't you ever here the advice "Don't do anything your mother wouldn't be proud of?" Tell him, he may want you to have an abortion, you might have to head in to the morality area now...ouch.
2007-04-21 03:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Adam S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once you are sure that you are pregnant I think you defiantly need to tell him. Maybe he don't want to know but the reality is He is the father! This means responsibility on his part even if he doesn't wish to be with you. As far as you are concerned I wonder why you would even think of any kind of relationship with him. He is not father or life partner material. What is a baby ? A disposable object ?
Seek someone out to help you to decide what to do for you own well being and life. Try and learn from this experience. Figure out what you really want in life and seek compatible people for intimate relationships.
If he doesn't return your calls , send him a registered letter if there is no other means.
2007-04-28 08:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by KevO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do wait until you are 100% sure. If you are, be sure it is his (was there anyone else?) Not fair to him if you say "I'm havin your kid" if there is even the slightest chance it's not his.
Tell him at the store (on break where no one is around) that you know what ya'll had is gone (that should let him know that you don't just want to talk to get back together with him) but you really need to talk to him about something soon...it's very important. Tell him that at work, and then just drop the bomb when ya'll do talk, but be prepared with the proof in hand (go to the doctor...most likely they'll do an ultrasound and you can hand him the pictures as you tell him)
Good luck.
2007-04-21 03:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at work, just tell him you have something VERY important to talk to him about and ask him to meet you after work. Then just come out and say it. Don't put a lot of feelings or emotions into telling him, just get right to the point and tell him you are pregnant. Then tell him to call you if he wants to talk some more about this. This will give him the time he needs to think about all of this, and what he wants to do without feeling any pressure. Then just wait and see what happens, but don't get your hopes up, and don't get married because of the baby, it wont work out, a baby can't make him love you, and that is what marriage is about...love. Good luck.
2007-04-21 03:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Cato 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are pregnant.
1. first decide if you want this man in your life for the rest of your life? If he doesn't want you, why force him to stay around? He is going to resent you and will not be faithful to you. You will just be a chain around his ankle. But the baby will be entitled to child-support and the ex will be entitled to parenting rights, even if you are not together. How to tell him? Well, expect he will demand a blood test. He may even demand that you have an abortion. And I would ask in a very gentle, mature, non-threatening manner. Acknowledge how he may feel. And if he does not ask for proof, you can still file for child support until he proves he is not the dad.
2. decide if you are willing to raise this child.
We don't' know how old you are, whether or not motherhood interests you or what your financial status is. If you will love and commit to this baby, then have it and keep it. If not, then please either get an early abortion or give the baby up for adoption. In this case, you would not even have to tell your ex, right? The baby only deserves to have a loving parent.
2007-04-21 03:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by americansneedtowakeup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - Most importantly - Make sure you know whether
you are pregnant or not. There is no need to bother
him if you are not pregnant.
Second - If you are pregnant make sure that you have
proof to show him (some kind of test results from the
doctor's office). He may want to wait until you have
the baby to make sure it is his baby. Slip him a note
at work (if he won't answer his phone when you call)
that you need to speak to him and that it is important.
If he still won't meet with you then place the test
results in an envelope and hand it to him. Then maybe
he will talk to you.
2007-04-21 03:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by chmar11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes do be sure that you are pregnant before telling him. If he will not answer the phone when you call then leave him a voice mail and let him know your sorry for having to tell him this way but he nevers answers when you call, let him know that you two have alot of talking to do and go from there. you can raise a child on your own w/out him- it will be difficult but you can do it. Good luck sweetie; I wish you and your unborn child the best in life
2007-04-21 03:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right in waiting until you're 100 percent sure. If you are, then you'll just have to keep trying to get ahold of him. Let him know it's an emergency and you need to talk. If he won't answer, maybe stop by his house and tell him. And honestly, if he's really being that big of a jerk and he keeps ignoring you, then you'll just have to tell him in your store. It's not the ideal way, but at least then he'd have to listen. And if you've tried to ge ahold of him other ways, then he's leaving you no choice. Good luck!
2007-04-21 03:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel i was pregnant at 17 with the guy i loved, wen i told him i was pregnant he left me. Girl, you can do it on your own its his loss. My son is almost 8 years old now, & i did a great job raising him, its hrd but can be done. He will soon realize what he could have had, or he may stay a child & not fess up to s responsibilities. Whatever you do dont blame the baby its not there fault, congrats & good luck!
2007-04-27 22:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lacey M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out for sure, first. If you express yourself best through letters, then I would write him a letter and tell him. Be upfront with what you want/need/expect from him. And ask him the same -- how does he want to be involved in this baby's life (and yours for that matter).
2007-04-21 03:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by marathonbdogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer first, ask that the man who got you pregnant take a DNA test to prove without a doubt that he is the father, then take him to court and make him pay for the medical bills and child support. if he doesn't like you now he sure won't like you then, but the baby comes first and for most.
2007-04-21 03:07:14 · answer #11 · answered by georgy porgy.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋