Why won't my teacher write me up?

Question

Not that I want to get written up, but I'm just wondering. I've skipped that woman's class twice and she knew about it, because she would come looking for me at lunch, but couldn't find me. The other day she searched the whole freakin school for me. I told her intern that I hate my teacher and that she is a ***** and so is all her other teacher friends. They really are because all they do is sit in there and talk about people. And I also threw her pen across the room and she couldn't find it cause it was there the next day. She was out of the room the whole time I did that though. Two people from that class said she came in mad and said she was gonna write me up for skipping but never did, and i've done that twice. The next day she wouldn't talk to me, look at me, or anything. We used to have a good teacher-student relationship, but I think i found out that all those teachers plus her were talking about me so I got really mad. I'm a girl with a bad attitude when it comes to it.

Answer 1

Do you have an IEP? The teacher probably won't write you up because the law says that students with Special Needs cannot be away from instruction more than 10 days during a school year. She didn't want you to get suspended.

Or the teacher is probably working under a principal who says, "If she can't control you, then she cannot manage her class!" That means, if she writes you up, then she will get in trouble for having poor classroom management skills.

Answer 2

As a teacher myself, I often find that writing up students doesn't do much of anything since ISS or detention isn't really too much of a punishment. My belief is that students need to take some responsibility for themselves or else they will never be able to survive as adults.

I agree with the other person who said that probably the reason why you're not being written up is because the teacher is figuring your real punishment will be a lower grade from lack of participation and the work you are missing by skipping. By the way, writing a student up and having to deal with the administration is often more of a punishment for the teacher. Hitting a student where it hurts---grades---always seems to be a bit more meaningful for my students.

Lastly, I discuss students with other teachers all of the time. It is not to bash them but to learn more about them and see if anyone else is having some of the same issues that I am. It's helped me a lot to have more of a clue about what makes a kid tick and when I tell a student that I talked to one of their other teachers about them, usually they're happy to know that I care and that I'm still thinking about them after class.

I really agree with the other people who have answered that it's good that you realize that there's a problem and that mistakes have been made. If you want things to change, you need to take the first steps: talk to your teacher about what has been going on and why you have been skipping. Admit to them that what you have been doing is wrong and really try to make things right. Your teacher will begin to respect you again once you show that you can live up to your responsibilities. I imagine that the teacher will also then start living up to your expectations as well.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Seems as though you have more issues than just a bad attitude. Instead of lashing out in this manner, try to take a more mature approach by talking with the teacher about the fact that you think that they talk about you. Understand something, the only one you are hurting in this situation is YOU. Even if she is not a really good teacher, she is teaching something you could benefit from. If you choose to handle things in this manner always, you will be the one who loses always. If you are able to express yourself as well as you did in this Yahoo!Answer, you are able now to begin to rethink how you think about things and how you do things. This is your one life that you are living. There are no do-overs. Make the most of this one.
Here is a suggestion. Find an adult in your school building that you trust, can talk to, who will listen to you. Explain your problem with this teacher and ask them to talk with the two of you about your feelings. If that will not work, have the teacher read your post here on Yahoo!Answers. Then begin dialogue from there. Please try to deal with how you feel and why. You are as worthy as every other human being on this planet. You deserve a happy and enriched life. GO MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Why won't she write you up? Because she knows that writing you up will not result in dealing with WHY you are acting that way. You will get a punishment and probably come right back and continue to be passive aggressive. Though she is frustrated, she probably wants to help you.
God bless you!!!

Answer 4

Start behaving better. the teacher obviously thinks more highly of you than you think of yourself. Yes I said of yourself. You are behaving very badly. I won't write you up either. You are looking for a fight with her. I don't think you understand that skipping her class is only hurting you. You are not getting the information that you need to pass her class and to grow as an individual.

You are behaving like a brat. She could have a surprise for you if you continue to skip. You will earn a failing grade in her class and get to repeat it nxt year. How about that smarty pants!

Answer 5

First, I have to commend you for being honest with us about your behavior. In my five years of teaching, I rarely find a student who confesses she did anything wrong. I know a lot of people on here are coming down on you, but I also know that there is a good heart in you. You just feel let down that teachers talk about you.

Let me also say that It is wrong for teachers to sit around and bash students. But I know why they do. According to a report in Time magazine, the second most stressful job is teaching. (The first is being a police officer). Teachers who complain about students are just trying to alleviate stress, but complaining is a non-productive way of doing it. Let me also say that it is unprofessional for her to tell other students that she is going to write you up. That is a violation of privacy, and your parents might want to talk to the principal about this.

To get to your question, though, there are two reasons why she isn't writing you up. If she writes you up, she has to deal with her bosses and your parents. Some parents defend students' behavior and some principals are afraid of parents. If she writes too many referrals, her bosses might want to hire a teacher who is more quiet. The second reason she isn't writing you up is that she wants you to respect her and she feels that writing you up is not going to accomplish that.

My advice is to put yourself in her situation and give her a break. Somehow let her know that students overhear teachers' conversations and that hurts them.

Answer 6

It's you, not the teacher that has the problem. I don't know what age you are but I suggest you start growing up. You call it attitude - I call it childishness. Apologise to her and wise up on yourself.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Its people like you that corrupt the schools in america these days, and waa-laa criminals, druggies, come from people like you. Thats why they need more disciplinary action in schools.. Spanking is one of them.