And did you find happiness and peace again?
2007-04-21 02:08:51 · 12 answers · asked by wiser 1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I guess I didn't really have a choice but to move on. The sun still comes up every morning, and the world doesn't stop. Time healed I believe. Nothing else could, only time. Then a couple of months later I met this great guy, but I wasn't ready for him, so we stopped seeing each other, then about 6 months later, after I had time to be single, and have fun with my girls, we meet again, this time I was ready, and so was he. We were married 3 months ago. I guess what really motivated me, was I had to go on. I had to be strong. I couldn't let him beat me, Even though all I wanted was to cry and stay in bed, I got up every morning. I also have great friends and family, so I am lucky.
2007-04-21 02:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by Seasidelover23 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should only move on when you decide that you are no longer in love and after you tried everything to make it work and nothing was working
How to be certain that you are no longer in love, is when you decide that you can no longer live with that person and even think of spending the rest of your life together. When you have no desire to make that person happy, because that person is making you incredibly unhappy. When you could look at that person and get turned off, because when you look at the person you love, you feel it, you know it, your proud of it. Overall, when you wish you never got married and now your certain that was a mistake.
You can end a marriage working together, especially if there are children involved, because if that's the case, they will keep you connected for the rest of your life.
You will certainly find peace again, if your getting away from an unpeaceful life.
2007-04-21 02:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had two motivators. One of which was the fact that I have an underage child. The choices her father was/is making are extremely harmful and irresponsible. I felt that staying with him would just be showing her that his behavior is acceptable, and since I can't make proper decisions for him, and after many years of begging, pleading, counseling for him to understand the consequences of his choices, divorce was my last resort.
My other motivator was because I realized that I'm worth more than how I was being treated and I deserve to be healthy and happy.
There have been some extremely rough times, but every day feels better and better and I'm much closer to happiness and peace than I was in the relationship. I'm now able to see so many opportunities out there instead of just accepting the situation I was in.
2007-04-21 02:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through a VERY painful breakup. The decision to move on came from 16 years of not being trusted. He never learned to trust that I would never mess around on him. He was always suspicious and questioning. The jealousy pushed me away. I guess it happened when the bad outweighed the good. However, now that I have moved on, I really miss the good!! It was the best love I have ever known.....the love of a lifetime. I have to keep reminding myself why I got out. I know I'll never love like that again.....but I guess you could say that I found peace.
2007-04-21 02:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sue S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made up my mind I was not going to live the rest of my life in misery and it was up to me to do something about it. Now that I look back on things, I wish I had divorced sooner. Oh well, can't change the past and it's better to have done it when I did rather than not do it at all. Life is great, finally have the peace and happiness and I wouldn't trade it for all the gold and silver in the world.
2007-04-21 03:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness was the key factor in the whole decision. I wanted to be happy and secure, where i was there was too much fighting and arguing. I found peace again for a bit, but im not so sure again now.
2007-04-21 04:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through a break up on the first of this month after being in a relationship for 9 yrs. I am finding my way.. lots of emotions flying around. I am praying for peace.
My motivation to move on was the fact that I could do bad by myself dont help in that area.
2007-04-21 02:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no longer looking to be nasty however he is doing it in view that he can. He is aware of you continue to deal with him, and he likes that however does not truthfully desire you. If you gave him the possibility for intercourse, am certain he'd take it however doubt that he might sell off his gf. You will have to give up seeing him altogether, it's particularly no longer well for closure functions to peer an ex always so quickly, you can not recover from him that means. Especially whilst he is gambling this recreation with you. If he desired you again he don't have even regarded going with this different woman.
2016-09-05 18:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's too short ...
Yes, Love can be very painful....but you need to pick yourself up...say "it wasn't meant to be"...and move on with your life. (that other person has)...Learn to Trust again, Learn to have Happiness again and Peace within yourself. Keep on Smilin*
2007-04-21 02:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he broke my hand, slamming it in a kitchen drawer. Yes, I'm happy, I re-married, and I've been happy ever since!
2007-04-21 02:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋