Do you have a friend who only contacts you when they want something?

Question

And I don't begrudge helping a friend out, but I do feel as though I'm being taken for a ride.
You ever experienced this?

Answer 1

Yes I do. I have two friends who are like that! These two ladies are not friends to each other. They think the world revolves around them! But I continue being their friend anyway.

Answer 2

I "know' one person like that but is not really a friend, he can't even be bothered to say hi unless he wants something. Also have a friend that helps every once in a while but is a bigger taker than he is a giver. Some want things, some just want all your time.
I limit the people I hang with for this reason.

Answer 3

Oh yes! He only calls me or IM's me to tell me about something that's going on in his life, without being their for me. Never occurred in his thick head to ever ask how I was doing or show any concern whatsoever (even when I was in the hospital). He's taken advantage of me and what I had to offer as a friend. He's a emotionally draining leech and I'm just waiting for the moment to cut him off.

Answer 4

Ohhhh yeahhhh........

I have this 'friend' who NEVER comes over when he's (they I should say, he's married) invited, NEVER calls to say 'hey' or to offer a hand when he knows I need something. But he'll call when HE needs something. When they need someone to go to dinner with, when no one ELSE could go, they call us. When he needs help at work (he runs a small business) he'll call me to 'offer me a side job' as he puts it...basically he just needs me to help bail him out of a pinch but he doesn't view it that way. When he wants some free beers, he'll ask us if we want to come over and 'hang out' or use the hot tub...knowing I'm such a gracious person that I'll always bring beer, cause he never has any. HE doesn't think we notice that sort of thing, but it's so transparent.

What do you do? I don't have the heart to call him out on it. I thought about going to the elders in our 'church' to see if they can encourage him to consider others' feelings a little more.....I

Answer 5

yes deffentally, i tell them that if they just call me because they have aproblem im here for them but i cant give you advise all the time so when ur through with all the drama call me when u want to talk about normal everyday stuff like did u here there coming out with a awsome new cd ex..... not any problems cause theres just so much u can take right :) well thats what i would tell them and maby then there get the picture lol! good luck with that!

Answer 6

Not a friend, but many of my husband's relatives. They only call when they want money for something. We have helped his siblings get out of debt, save their homes from foreclosure, keep their electricity on, food on their tables......and most of the time we have never been repaid, even when these people got back on their feet and had the money to buy nice cars, remodel their kitchens and bathrooms, buy computers, take vacations, etc....so we just stopped lending to everyone.

Answer 7

I've been there too. Takes awhile to figure out, but when I do, I just start saying no to all the drama. Real friends don't leave if you say you can't do something. Those like what you describe will be gone straight away. S&cks.

Answer 8

I think most of us feel we've experienced this. I like helping people out - it makes me feel needed. But it hurts because I see the way she "uses" me & others too. I guess the best thing to do is to help them out when they ask, and overlook it for the most part.

Answer 9

Sometimes I feel I'm that type of person. I get busy and then when I hit some snag I wonder who can advise or help me. It's then I guiltily remember somebody I haven't seen for a while.

Answer 10

More than once. Have some family members that do that too. But I don't mind helping. God has blessed me with good friends and family. There is no way I could turn my back on any of them.