Everyone has their "thing" that they want/need in a relationship. For some people, missionary position is enough. (Gosh don't know who these people are). For others fuzzy handcuffs and the like are more the flavor of choice. What if your partner was into DD? (please google if you don't know what I'm referring to) I need men's perspectives mostly because men have been raised that it's wrong to hit a women. So what would your reaction be if that's precisely what your partner wanted? (Remember this being a consentual relationship...I'm not talking wife beater here).
Would this be something you'd think your partner needed therapy for or would/could you accept it as a kink? Thanks in advance for opinions and thoughts on the matter.
2007-04-21 01:06:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DD-Domestic Discipline
2007-04-21 01:16:18 · update #1
There are thousands of couples who live in domestic discipline relationships. Most of what I've seen, it is not a love of actual spanking that draws them to it, but a desire for a traditional lifestyle where the husband is in authority. Many men will agree to a domestic discipline lifestyle once they understand why their wife wants one.
2007-04-21 01:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Here's your Male perspective. It's natural to me, but a learning process for both parties on bringing it into your relationship. Man being Dominant, must be worthy of your trust and submission. If he's not, then you're role playing to fulfill a masochistic need. If he is, then it can be a lifestyle. Boundries that are broken must be dealt with accordingly and consistantly. Can your man handle that? Is it a part of who he is? or will he be play acting for your benefit? You have to be honest about it, and so does he. Check out a movie called "Secretary" with James Spader and Maggie Guggen(somethingorother). It will provide fruit for discussion. Spanking, cornertime, all that good stuff has a function. You don't need to be "fixed", just be "you". :D There are many sites out there in the DD D/s arena. Below are a few that I subscribe to. Enjoy
p.s. I use a riding crop for fun and games, a leather paddle for discipline. NEVER strike in anger, and Never use a closed fist. It's not only about DD, it's about self control. If your man doesn't have it, you're opening yourself up for some bad juju.
2007-04-21 23:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am past the fuzzy handcuffs and crave even more then DD. It is not wrong...it is not sick. It is WONDERFUL! If you want suggestions on how to approach the topic with your partner or anything else feel free to email me.
2007-04-21 08:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by wicked wench 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your both willing, there is nothing wrong with it. Consenting adults can do whatever they want to make each other happy. Kink is what keeps the spice in a relationship. My wife and I are always willing to try new things to keep our sex life interesting.
2007-04-21 09:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by bugs280 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the human sexual response is so incredibly complex, and people can be turned on by apparently irrelevant things.
There's just one rule: no pain to anyone who doesn't want it. If you're being leaned on to take part in activities that you find unpleasant, DON'T.
I'd also worry: if this is something recent, you don't yet know how far he wants to take it. And if you don't like it now, you definitely won't like it when it becomes more intense.
This guy has issues, as they say, and you shouldn't get caught in the crossfire.
CD
2007-04-21 08:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what dd means, but there's no way I'd hit some body just to get my rocks off. Thats too weird, maybe sick is a better term.
2007-04-21 08:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spanks a lot! She'd be sitting on a pillow, but no heavy stuff, just fantasy, and hotter than a $2 pistol!
2007-04-21 08:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not sure about hitting. biting and hair pulling seems to be ok. how awkward would it be to go somewhere all beat to hell and have to explain why you look like that? But i guess its whatever you are in to.
2007-04-21 12:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by tour0817 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's what my partner wanted I couldn't do it . She should seek therapy
2007-04-21 11:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I believe it to very weird. I don't think it is right to hit a woman
2007-04-21 08:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by hey you 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋