i slept with my beautiful cousin a week before her wedding day
but it happened in spain i was there for her wedding and she said to me that she finds me attractive and she started showing me around the city and plaza and she started holding but once i went off to bed an hour later she came to the room and got in bed with me and started kissing around my neck i told her to go away i even pushed her off the bed and she still insisted and i got tired of pushing her off so she started to undress and i decided to go ahead and give in so we had sex that night and 2 days before her wedding but i wore a condom once and i pulled out and she went oral on me. anyway what should i do i feel that i should go and say something to my mom.
my cousin i slept is my mothers cousins daughter was it nasty to do her in my part?
2007-04-19 23:16:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
anyway i was stressing not anymore come to think of it i actually loved it
:)
2007-04-19 23:24:56 · update #1
YOU KNOW I HAVE A RULE; IF IT AFTER 3 YOU DON'T MEAN NOTHING TO ME. SO IF SHE IS YOUR THIRD COUSIN OR FURTHER DOWN THE POLE I HOPE IT WAS GOOD IF NOT THEN IT WAS A LITTLE NASTY. BUT YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE PAST SO STOP STRESSING.
2007-04-19 23:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she strongly encouraged you to have sex doesn't make it entirely her fault so you can't blame it on her. She's not your first cousin so it's not as gross as it first sounded.
Basically she might have just wanted to fulfill a sexual fantasy before she got married and you were a willing participant.
It does seem unfair that you're shouldering the feelings of guilt but unfortunately you can't go back and change the past.
If you feel you have to do something, I would talk to her and tell her how you feel (but don't have sex with her again). Let her know that it's not forgotten and she should come clean to her husband.
After that I would just avoid her and get on with your life - you don't want to get sucked into their marriage troubles because a) it won't be pretty b) you're family so there will be no escape for you.
Move on. How old are you by the way?
2007-04-19 23:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you tell her?
What benefit is there for saying anything to anybody?
Is it to make you feel better by confessing?
Do you feel guilty?
It was just a fling. Leave it alone. Enjoy the memories.
Dont cause any trouble for yourself or her.
It is no one elses business.
I dont think it was nasty - not a great idea to do it but it has happened and it is over and nothing bad came of it so
leave it alone and keep your lips shut
2007-04-19 23:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Olivereindeer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point of saying something. It was a dog of an act on both parts. Maybe she wanted a bit and knew you were going away so it would be o.k to get away with. So just let her get away with it.
2007-04-19 23:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is wrong. you guys are first cousins, telling someone will only create chaos in both families and the new marriage.
you just need to take this one to the grave, hope that your cousin changes her ways as her behavior will probably lead to other poor decisions that will ultimately end her marriage, and not let her tempt you again.
2007-04-19 23:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by onlinedreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was first time for u and u are type of person who believes sex outside marriage and commitment is wrong then u may confess in front of God ,else forget it forever.
2007-04-20 07:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by soulmate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that is icky. but honestly and as discusting as it sounds as long as its more then once removed its legal in most states....
i wouldnt do it.... if your really bothered by it then tell your mom.. how old are you.... i mean was that your first... cause if it was i am sorry hun. what you need to do is figure out what YOU want to do. tlaking is not a bad thing.
2007-04-19 23:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You telling would just be bragging, just be pleased with yourself and keep it within. Your dirty laundry can't be cleaned anywhere else, and if you show it around people will think you stink!
2007-04-19 23:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by sara w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That makes her your third cousin...I don't know if thats incest...I wouldn't say anything, you were probably her 'last piece of freedom' before marriage.
2007-04-19 23:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if keeping it a secret bothers u then just set yourself free and confess but if it doesnt then by all means dont tell!
2007-04-19 23:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋