2007-04-19 22:55:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Soulmates are much like the fairy tale prince. THEY DON"T EXIST.
Even if they did what would "saving themselves" possibly have to do with it.
If soulmates did exist,they don't, how would one know without confirming the whole souls meeting experience? That would include sex wouldn't it. That is where souls blend isn't it?
This concept of soulmate assumes that there is a person out there with whom you just click and"its so right". Relationships take discovery, learning, time, nurturing, work, negotiation, compromise and tolerance. Do not be fooled by the soft light of infatuation it does not last.
35 years with the same wife.
Follow up, I wrote this before I read the other answers. Ironic that Sultan who is also married over thirty years kind of discounts the soulmate thing. You might take heed that two answers from people who have been married a long time understand what it takes to be together that long. Its not soulmates its the relationship built in time with some work.
2007-04-20 00:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I wonder where you are getting the idea of soul mates from. "Soul mates" like the "perfect partner" and the Easter Bunny aren't real. Unlike the Easter Bunny, the other two are intellectual fictions that allow people to make themselves feel good in a rather miserable situation. Love works the same way sometimes actually, but I digress...
Imagine that you know that you are getting a puppy for Christmas. You're all excited in the months leading up to that fantastic day. You open the box, only to find a _dead_ puppy. Imagine the disappointment. Now apply that metaphor to sex with a "soul mate". This person is right for you in everyday... except sex. Sex, being vital to not only to personal happiness but also to the propagation of the human race, is a rather important thing. Good sex is really high on the list for a "soul mate", because if you are not interested in the most pleasurable experience in the world with your "soul mate", then they are probably not a "soul mate" at all. Sorry to rant...
2007-04-20 06:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by Suriyawong 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sure. I'm not all that convinced that the 'soul-mate' sort of love ... where there is a 'perfect' fit for you ... is real. I'm a bit skeptical about that. But, I did feel that 'this is the one' sort of connection that happened when I met my wife. She was my complete opposite; and I think that's what attracted us to each other. We are the furthest thing from a 'soul-mates' that I can imagine; and the past 30 years together have been fascinating.
But, yeah .... save your heart until you feel 'this is the one'. He's there, and it's worth the wait.
You are wonderful (smile).
2007-04-20 06:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sultan 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, the path that you follow in life leads you to where you are meant to be, I don't believe saving yourself would make any difference, what if you didn't meet your soul mate til you were age 90? You pass up a life time of opportunity. I also don't believe there is one person for everyone, I think you can be happy, but perhaps you could be happier with a different person. I did save myself for marriage the first time around, and it was horrific, I am amazed I was not damaged for life after that, if I had known what he was like by sleeping with him before we married I would NEVER have made that mistake.
2007-04-20 06:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that saving yourself for marriage is dangerous. You never know how you're going to feel about your mate once you finally do sleep together and then, what if you hate it? You're pretty much stuck there, because now you're married. I consider not living with someone before marriage to be a huge mistake, as well. Just my opinion. People get along better when they've taken the time to get to know each other before they threw themselves together under the same roof.
2007-04-20 06:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by TruthSeeker 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Even though I think it's extremely important and good to save yourself for marriage;
I think if you're SOUL MATES, you'll find one another no matter who has done what.
2007-04-20 06:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
HEll no how would you meet people and know if you connect if you save yourself for marriage i don't believe in all that saving yourself for marriage have fun while you can you only live once just be damn careful!
I don't mean to offend anyone it's just my view i do believe in soul mates but don't think you will find one if you just settle for the first person you come across. Your soul mate may not even believe in no sex before marriage. Unfortunately times change and those stuck in the frame of mind that sex before marriage is a bad thing need to wake up and realise that it is now a part of life and stop looking down their noses at those who don't believe in saving themselves.
2007-04-20 05:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Missbutterfly:-) 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I think unmatched soul mates have to travel and/or be exposed to more people, or they may never find one.
Sex is good, but needs to be taken in more moderation. Saving sex for marriage may be a disaster for some, and I don't think there is one formula there. If you want to save for marriage, you be yourself.
2007-04-20 06:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
soul mates go beyond a sexual thing. you can have a soul mate and not feel a sexual attraction. If youve found a soul mate and are attracted physically...superb! whether you save it for marriage probably doesnt make any difference. peace
2007-04-20 06:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just do what you think is right. You know what your soul needs.
2007-04-20 06:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋