It was hidden from the spouse, and only revealed when caught.
2007-04-19 21:23:20 · 40 answers · asked by Barbara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Additional info: It was the his best friend's wife he was texting.
2007-04-19 22:05:48 · update #1
yes yes yes yes cheating!
2007-04-19 21:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by angeljen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating and it's not honesty as well.
If u r connected to each other by texting to each other for months u'd like to meet each other as well /if u didn't yet/. And every thing little by little becomes more serious before u can notice it.
If 2 married people text to each other all the time means they're waiting for smth. from each other and it's the beginning of ur interest to her.
The connection u have between u both is not open and honest towards ur partners; better to stop on time and never regret after.
Good luck!
2007-04-19 21:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Panther 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is! Want to know why?....because someone else is occupying your intimate thoughts. You don't have to sleep together -- that's just one of society's indifferent excuses.
If there's an issue within your marriage --and I'm sensing a resounding YES to this--- tend to it. Either by resolving it or letting it go. Why complicate matters with a deceitful and complicated situation? The mere "hiding" of any pleasurable correspondence is a clear indication that an escape was needed -- accept that by owning up to what is your fault before pointing fingers. Regardless of how awful your situation is, NO ONE chooses for you. No one.
One more thought to consider with ALL honesty : if you and your internet lover actually meet and begin a real relationship, how much trust would you truly have knowing the circumstances surrounding your own beginning?
Close one chapter before opening another.
2007-04-19 21:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by justlee62 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating by way of deceit. Even with no physical relationship, the two parties know that if the opportunity came to take it to the next level, they would because the barriers are down. Explicit texting or e-mails is a form of flirting.
2007-04-20 04:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Yes it's cheating, it was only a matter of time before the messages became real life. I know because thats what happened with my ex husband. If it was explicit then it was phone s-x.
2007-04-20 03:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by kevina p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Barbara, yes it's cheating. Anything done in secrecy and under the cover of lies is cheating. It's what they call an "emotional affair", and with all the technology we have today, it's becoming a big factor in marriages going down the drain.
Why would he hide it from his wife, or her from her husband unless they were up to no good. If one of them was having trouble with their spouse, they could at least say "honey, Jan is having some problems, and I am trying to help her." No big deal, truth. But hiding, deleting, sneaking, makes the innocent guilty. And the guilty cheaters!
Hoping this wasn't your husband. Barbara, like I said with computers and cell phone the definition for "cheating'" has changed for sure. Praying that it isn't your husband, and that if it is, that you find the truth.
God bless us all..............
2007-04-20 02:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would agree it is cheating. As others have rightly said, one thing leads onto another. I have been in a similar situation though my husband at the time had just told me he was gay so I dont feel guilty about it.
I would suggest you deal with it NOW before it escalates and if the spouse cannot be honest with you then I would give them an ultimatum.
2007-04-19 21:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by LHB13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily cheating he could have felt ashamed about it and not know how to tell you. If they are not doing anything and it's hurting no one....why does it matter so much. Were you snooping? In my experience you don't look under the bed unless you've been there because if you can't trust yourself who can you trust.
2007-04-19 23:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by tamber_sg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definitely cheating
2007-04-20 01:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cheating in a way. If the person hadn't been caught it would of led on to an affair.
2007-04-20 01:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by Vixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's cheating, especially if it's hidden from the spouse. If it isn't something to be hidden, why hide it?
2007-04-19 21:29:54 · answer #11 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋