Do you think its right for a husband....please help?

Question

Do you think its right for a husband when he's out of town for business trips to go "out" to bars, clubs, ect. I stay home with my little the last time I went out was to a concert twice he knew about me planning to go to these concerts and he uses that against me because I went out to a bar ONCE! On the other hand, he went to South Padre Island spring break with his divorced brother and his girlfriend and her friends without me this was another business trip he had in that area.Didn't call me untl 48hrs later!!! Now, he's in California and he's been going out every night. Doesn't feel the need to call me and is going out to bars. I talked to him about it but he sees no harm. Yet he doesn't think its right for me to go out. He pretty much wants his cake and eat it too. How would you feel? Do you think this is unfair in his all of the sudden "single life" when he's out of town? I think its disrespectful! What would you do or say? Any advice would help thanks

Although he says he's not out to cheat on me...its still disrespectful because he's opening himself for that situation. You can't have a wife at home and have a single life while your out of town.

He calls throughout the day time but if its night time and most likely he's out I don't really get a call back unless I call him.

Answer 1

If he is there on business he should be getting his good nights rest sounds like he just uses business as an excuse to have fun and who knows what else without you... If I have to go out of town without my girl I spend every minute of free time calling her on the phone from the hotel and missing her very much and trying to cut the trip as short as possible or find a way to take her with... she will usually go shopping while I attend to business then we can go out together

Answer 2

My husband is in LA on a business trip and he is out of town a lot.This is what my husband does when he is gone
as soon as he gets where he is going he calls me,he also calls at lunch dinner when he gets back from dinner and right before he goes to bed that's a lot of calls in a day.He does not go to bars without me he knows that would hurt me.Your husband he doing something behind your back and you no what it is you just don't want to believe he would do that to you,but you feel it,there is no other reason for him to be acting the way he is.He is walking on you and you no he is so why ain't you doing anything about it.There are good men out there that would treat you right don't settle for second best.

Answer 3

Yes, this is unfair. He's having a good time while u sit at home and take care of the child alone.
If he doesn't understand how u feel about it, I guess better to find another job when he will be in the same town as u and u can have at least two day offs. Let him to take care of the child a bit and and u relax a little, have rest and fun with ur friends. Only in this reason he'll appreciate u.
Remember! MEN DON'T LIKE WOMEN TO SIT AT HOME ALL THE TIME, THEY GET BORED WITH THEM U HAVE TO BE ALLWAYS ATTRACTIVE AND GET OUT FROM HOME SOMETIMES.
He feels comfortable for sure as u r at home and he doesn't have to bother himself to think about u. So let him to think, to worry about u. Never cheat on him but let him see that many men notice u, u r always attractive and he has got something to worry about - his pretty wife who is very beautiful and who can compare his life and husband with others.

Take care :)

Answer 4

I wouldn't have it, I would definately have a talk about it because he is in fact involved with someone therefore unable to live a single live, he doesn't get to choose a single life just because he's out of town, he needs to either be single all the time or married all the time, he cant be both. I think that you should approach it like that, he needs to decide which one he wants.

Answer 5

know what I'd do since he's out of town? Hire a babysitter and go out and party. Get the gals and do the same as he is. It doesn't solve problems but it sure beats sitting at home complaining about fairness of the computer! You are choosing to stay at home and complain when you have the perfect opportunity to go out.

Answer 6

I would not tolerate it if I were you. He's a married man, he needs to act like one. Unfortunately he's not even taking your feelings into consideration here. He can't claim there's no harm in what he's doing when in fact, he's putting himself into a situation where temptation is greatest. What are you suppose to think? It's hard to trust someone when their very actions make them irresponsible. At this point in time, you need to lay it on the line. You are beyond talking about it. He isn't listening.

Answer 7

Well it isn't right that he doesn't communicate with you at all during his away business. I would be angry. As far as him going out, if he can do it, he should allow you the freedom to do the same. Otherwise it becomes a double standard. And no, he shouldn't be acting as if he's single. That is complete disregard for you as his wife.

Answer 8

You know I think its fine for him to go out AS LONG AS you can have the same thing.

Honestly I'd say to hell with him and go out when you please, he obviously does, write time every time he goes out and when he has issues with you going out show him the times he's gone out and calmly walk out of the room.

Its not fair he asks you to trust him but he won't give you the same curtesy, but by letting him control you with his angry words then he knows how to do what he wants. Don't stand for it, go to the concert, go to the bar

have fun too :)

Answer 9

I think he is cheating. Not caring how you feel about it is emotional cheating. Put your foot down and tell him how you feel about it. If he doesn't change then you don't have much of a marriage. I wish you luck in what ever you decide.

Good luck

Answer 10

You have on your hands a husband who is not too faithful or loving. If he won't change, you should change........ie go out more and have a good time like what he is doing.