i feel so stressed.i cry almost everyday?

Question

i am in secondary school and i have a tutor who is my cousin.she teaches me since i am very young.now,she is busy with her school work and no longer teaches me,i have no motivation to study by my own.i now almost failed all my tests.i cry everything when i think of her.although my parents want help me find another tutor,i dun wan cos i believe my last tutor is the best ever.Because of this,my parents scolded me for failing my tests and being lazy.i dun wan it to happen oso.Next,my friend told me that i have a bad attitide cos i always critisice ppl.i noe it is not nice to be critisiced by other ppl.but it seems that it has become a habit and i cant quit it.i really hope to change this attitude as i dun wan to end up wif no frends.Pls help me

Answer 1

I can understand that you are very comfortable and confident with your cousin. It's not practical for her to neglect her studies to assist you, if there are other tutors available. Are you saying that you will only be able to succeed if your tutored by your cousin? Clearly she cannot be the only competent tutor out there, but maybe the only one you're fully comfortable with? Hopefully, you are motivated by your own drive to be successful and do the best that you can do in life. Unfortunately all through life you will be placed in various different learning situations -which may not be comfortable for you- but it is life. You will have many different teachers and supervisors etc that you need to try to adapt to.
Do you think the reason you're depressed is because you're not studying and doing well? It's really up to you to motivate yourself to be happy.

Answer 2

don't stress it believe it or not I'm in the same boat as you I'm getting home schooled this year by a tutor and she had to leave and i have a new one i don't like the new one but every time i start to freak out i remember that summer is so close and some tips to not criticizing people is to think about every thing you say before you say it its kind of hard but it works and let your friends know that you cant help it and ask them for help if they say they wont help you they are not real friends and if it helps talk to your parents about how stressed out you are and how you cant take it if they don't help you with it seek out a teacher or friend to help o and the way i get motivated is by not wanting to stay back in school that might work for you every time i don't feel like doing a paper i think well if i don't do it now i have to do it next year hope i helped later

Answer 3

It's very normal to cry when you deal with problems like that. Those are all very stressful situations and it is normal to cry under stress. I feel the same way sometimes... for the longest time I would cry myself to sleep at night because of everything that was going on. My grandmother died, and she died in my dad's house. My parents separated, and I was bullied in class. I feel alone inside every day. Don't worry, the crying will eventually go away but for right now, it's normal. Try spending more time with friends, it will help. <3 Stay strong.

Answer 4

Time to grow up. Get that new tutor, and get that education before you have to take some crappy job when you grow up.

Everytime you start to say something critical about someone else, think about how you would feel if someone said that to or about you. Learn to take responsibility for your actions. No one else can make you a better person. It is up to you to want to be a better person. You are right, if you don't change, you will never be able to keep a friend. Eventually they all will dislike you. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Not sure where you're from, but in America we have a saying: Don't cut off your nose to spite your face.

What this means, basically, is if you can't get your way, you just won't do it at all.

This hurts no one but you.

How do you know you won't find another tutor who is just as good (or better than!) as your cousin?

At least give it a try, honey. Your spelling and grammar could sure use a brush-up!

Good luck, sweetie.

Sandy

Answer 6

You can study by yourself, you need to befriend and equal yourself to your peer, not just so care about not having a tutor, try to be indepedent.

Since you know you had a bad habbit, try to mark yourself a credit on a paper when you say something good, and mark X when you do something you don't like again.

Answer 7

I believe you got to control your temper and try to stop criticise others in the first place. Put yourself in other shoes and see how you feel when they start to criticise you. This is the same feeling others have when you start criticising others. You must also learn to adopt to other people style of teaching and be open to them. Once you start to get used to other style of teaching, I believe you can do well for your exam

Answer 8

During my school day, I always loss concentration if I studied alone. Try to get your classmate to study together, you can ask each other questions if not sure, this will help you to improve in your exam and also help to increase your relationship with your classmate.

Answer 9

it is so hard to break patterns of this sort and believe me i know people who simply make a life out of it.

try to start focusing more upon your own qualities and what makes you special so as not to feel a need to belittle others in what can be an effort to justify what you feel to be your shortcomings. also, try directly your conversation to current events, movies and things of common interest instead of people. it is not easy to retrain yourself in this way but you must learn to be more positive if you are going tobe sucessful in your life.

Answer 10

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