I'm NOT gay but..?

Question

I'm not gay but sometimes I find some guys hot and w/e but i also am attracted to girls but not on a sexual level so much. I think their really hot but I dont want to have sex with them (sometimes I am sexually attracted to them) , and I also have feelings for girls and none what so ever towards men. I might be Bi but I dont think so. Can i just be curious?

Thanks to everyone. It's just so damn confusing when u LOVE a girl but don't want to have sex with her. It makes my head spin out of control. It's insane that people actually have to go through this and idk its like WTF

Answer 1

Hi,
On earth no person is either 100% gay or 100% straight. It`s just that some people have a higher inclination to people of the same sex and others to those of the opposite sex.Its perfectly common for a girl to think of a girl as 'hot' and vice-versa. It all depends on how you feel and who you are more comfortable with on a sexual level. My best advice would be to condife in a school counsellor if you`re still in school or if not, look around maybe even a psychologist (not that you need therapy NOT AT ALL) but maybe they can help you out.

Hope this helps

Answer 2

Sexuality is so politicized these days, that it is difficult for people like yourself.

Sometimes people find they are not attracted to girls because of some issue in their life. There are some famous case studies where people go from thinking they are gay to being attracted to girls.

Other people are attracted to men, because that is how they are.

Some people are attracted to both. Some people find they are attracted to one gender but are happier in relationships with the other gender (some lesbians for example).

Human sexuality is very complicated. So don't let anyone tell you either way.

My view is to take it wherever it goes. If you meet a guy, he is hot. You want to get naked with him, get naked with him. If you want to have a relationship with him, have that. Just go whereever it goes and good luck finding your piece of happiness.

Answer 3

Honestly, society has told us that we have to put ourselves in a box. We have to label ourselves and classify ourselves as "blank" or else we are confused. That's just plain ridiculous. Everyone has all different sorts of feelings, especially growing up, and just because you might be attracted to someone who is male, and so are you does not automatically mean anything. I really think society puts too much emphasis on us defining ourselves. We are emotional, feeling people, and we should just allow ourselves to be whoever we are. Don't worry about classifying yourself as anything - just be you and be comfortable with who you are. The rest will fall into place.

Answer 4

I had these question along time ago.

Its really confusing. I'm gay now but that doesn't mean you are to. You're curious and its okay to experiment as long as you are legal and protected. Just keep an open mind and test the waters.

Answer 5

Well you can be whatever it is you are meant to be...just follow your instincts and do whatever feels right...
Dont be afraid to admit to yourself that you are gay, or bi....
Its not a choice...you either are or arent
You can always rent gay porn and see if that turns you on...if it does then you are definetly bi...
If it turns you on more then staright pron then honey you are as queer as can be and where living in denial...
Don toppress your feelings...nothing good ever came out of that...

Answer 6

your not bi your curious if you feel serious about the atraction then experiment if not or afriad to then you just straight and live a long happy life

Answer 7

Its normal to be curious.
Just because you have thoughts and feelings doesn't mean you will act on them.

Read up on the Kinsey scale;it might help you understand your feelings and what they might mean.
http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/ak-hhscale.html

Answer 8

you are bi-sexual.