How can I stop being shy?

Question

This is coming from a guy. I feel that my shyness is limiting my potential and stopping me from doing things that I would be doing if I wasn't shy. How do I start to change?

I understand that this is a pretty general question, but anything will help.

Answer 1

I took a communications class. Found friends with the same interests. It stopped my shyness.

Answer 2

I have given lectures in front of hundreds of people, met powerful people and dated models....and people don't believe that I am shy.

But I am, sometimes.

Really shyness comes from not knowing what to say. That is, the feeling that in this situation I can't say anything.

Shyness is not a disease, it just a matter of learning social skills. I conquered person shyness by learning to tell jokes. In fact many comedians are actually fairly shy. Because they don't know what to say, they learn to turn everything into a joke.

I also read and know a fair amount. Learning when to say something interesting helps as well. But too much of this sort of thing can be rather dull for the listener.

Go out, meet people.

Walk up to beautiful girls and say "you are beautiful". When you polish your performance they will feel happy to hear this.
When I was at school and university I would never tell a girl she is beautiful, but now, I do it all the time. I like to see a girl smile to know she is beautiful.

But learn what to say. Don't say "You are beautiful", say "oh, why is a beautiful girl like you sitting here alone".

Also, go to parties. Grab a beer, don't drink too much, and sit and listen. Very often someone, usually a beautiful girl, will start to ask you questions.

Take your time, life's problems don't need to be conquered today.

Answer 3

well, you are absolutely right. Shyness does limit your potential because you are not yourself when you are shy. You are shy because you do not think that you are good enough and you care way tooooo much what people think. The best way to overcome shyness (which by the way is going to be a gradual process) is by starting out on this premise: You are perfect just the way you are. There is nothing wrong with you and you don't need to prove that to anyone. 2nd premise is that you accept yourself, all the quirks about you, accept them and love them, that's who you are. You may decide to improve on yourself as time goes on (as all humans who progress in life do) but self acceptance is the key to ANY improvement. There is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with you as you are now. The best way to get these premises into your mindset is to pay attention to what you say to yourself. Instead of i just did something stupid, say, I am awesome, I had the courage to try. Keep track of what you are telling yourself and change them to positives by looking at the positive sides of what you did. ALWAYS. You can decide to improve on it but you start first by acknowledging the great thing you just did
Lastly, your opinion about yourself is most important. More than what ANYONE else might think. People judge you just as harshly as they judge themselves. So you are not going to hold yourself to the standard of someone out there who may be very negative and critical. They can do that to themselves, don't let them do that to you. Also you will realize that ofetn when you assume people are judging you or thinking negative thoughts about you, they are not. It's all in your head and you are actually the one judging yourself. So do not speculate on what people are thinking about you and most importantly, do not care.
Good luck, you are half way on your way to getting rid of the shyness. Remember, there is nothing wrong with you and your opinion of yourself is ONLY what matters

Answer 4

If you appreciate the things about yourself that make you special and unique you will not be shy. Shyness comes from feeling unappreciated and undervalued, but you have to believe that what you have to say is as valid as anyone else.

Answer 5

Get off the computer and go out and talk to people.

You gotta start somewhere, sometime.

Answer 6

perhaps this is gift from God to keep you safe Just pray he leads you into a level of extrovertness that benefits you and others

Answer 7

by acting and reacting without thinking.

Answer 8

im the same way so i cant help you srry