Gay Marriage?

Question

I know what my beliefs are on the topic of gay marriage. I would like to know what you think about it.

If you are for it, say so and explain the reasoning.

If you are against, say so and explain the reasoning.

Are your reasons for either way based on morals, ethics, religion, politics, etc.? Please explain as much as possible. If you are neutral but understand reasons for both sides of the argument, feel free to answer as well.

I'm working on a paper for one of my classes and want to get current "data" if you will. Please, understand when you are answering and reading other people's responses that all are entitled to their beliefs and please respect that. Name calling and ridiculing someone else's response because they don't agree with your own is silly and immature.

I really appreciate your time with this. I'm also working with other topics and will be posting similar questions if you would like to answer them as well. Thanks!!

Okay good answers so far but please make sure you include your reasoning. That's a big part of what I need for my paper. Thanks again!!

Saying that marriage is between a man and a woman is only half a reason. Why do you feel it should be between a man and a woman? What foundations led you to believe/feel this way?

Answer 1

I answered your other question about the abortion issue.

My opinion on gay marriage is very similar to my abortion answer. In my personal life I would not marry someone of the same gender, because A) I'm not homosexual and B) I don't feel it is right. As contradictory as it sounds for me to say I don't feel it is right, this country was meant to allow for choices and the pursuit of happiness.

Someone stated before me that the constitution guarantees the pursuit, not the actual accomplishment of happiness. So true, but in guaranteeing that we can pursue happiness, those want to pursue getting married to their same sex partner, we should let them make that decision. If it makes them happy then they were successful in their pursuit. If the end up like the large percentage of heterosexual marriages that end in divorce then they were obviously unsuccessful. Granting gay couples the right to be married does not guarantee they'll be happy. It guarantees that they are capable to make that decision if they want.

Also, marriage isn't just about having kids or sex. Marriage is a commitment between two people who love each other. Granted kids come along with it, but only if the couple chooses. So just because a couple, gay or heterosexual, gets married doesn't mean they are gonna start poppin' out kids or adopting.

Like in my other answer, which people may go read if they like to get a better understanding of where I am coming from because I'm not going to retype everything I just wrote in that one, my personal beliefs should not affect someone else's decisions especially when they may not believe the same as I.

Answer 2

When it comes right down to it, if I HAD to decide, I guess I would be against it. Marriage is a religious union, always has been, always will be. We are taught through most religions in the world that marriage is a union between a man and a woman. Woman was created as a companion for man. If man should be with man, women would have never been created. Through that statement, we know that God ment for man to be with woman. Otherwise there would be no females in the world.

On the other hand everyone has to answer for their own actions. If homosexuals want to marry, I would not stand in their way. Everyone deserves to be happy and be loved but, they, and whoever marries them, will have to answer for it in the end.

Point being, I believe that everyone should respect this issue and let everyone live their lives as they see fit. On judgement day they will have to deal with the decisions that they have made. It should make no difference to heterosexuals or other homosexuals. Live and let live.

Answer 3

i am a straight, christian high school senior, and i am fully in support of gay marriage, though i think it should be called something other than marriage for the same reason that you cannot call a yellow flower a purple dog

as far as morals and ethics go, i don't see why anyone could have a problem with two people loving each other. i guess some people just see it naturally "wrong" but i never really understood how it could be wrong to love anyone. you should be able to do whatever you want, as long as it does not infringe on the rights of others.

from a religeous standpoint, i have a similar stance. first of all, in a country where church and state are spereated, this shouldn't even be an issue. but assuming it is, i still maintain my stance. yes, the bible does say in several places that gay sex is evil/unclean/whatever, depending on your bible version. however, for every statemenbt against homosexuality, there are like 8 rules that don't make sense. for instance, the bible clearly states that you shouldn't eat shellfish. i don't eat seafood anyway because i think it's gross, but i doubt it's a sin to eat a lobster. it also includes guidelines for the stoning of women who show too much skin and that women should not be allowed to teach undser any cirumstances. why is it that we pay attanetion to the laws about homosexuality but are allowed to ignore other ones. Jesus never says anything against homosexuality, but does say "love your neighbor". none of the commandments mention it, either

by the way i really like the way you are going about researching this and i would encourage you to maintain your lack of bias while researching

Answer 4

Ok, first of all if I come off as gay bashing, I'm not. This just my "logic". If you are gay and you want to be married, I am all for it. But under two conditions. First, stop saying that it's because you want "the right to make the same mistakes." I am so tired of hearing that. You know as well as I do, you can be with someone, live together, be lovers, and still make the same mistakes that a heterosexual married or unmarried couple makes. Second, go ahead and admit that the reason that you want to be married is so when it comes April 15th of every year, you can claim the $3000 tax credit that married couples get. You do those two things and I think most states would ok the idea.

Answer 5

I am for gay marriage for many reasons. First of all I think everyone should be able to be happy and if marriage will make them happy then why should we deny it? Let them live their lives. Also, gay marriage is unconstitutional for many reasons. It obstructs the pursuit of happiness and doesn't allow these citizens to be truly free.

And in this argument people bring up morals and the church all the time. Why is this? It's one thing not to believe gay marriage is morally correct and if you feel this way I have a simple solution, do not marry someone of the same sex. Church should not come up in the argument as to whether gay marriage should be allowed because there is supposed to be separation of Church and state, therefore it should not matter what the bible, a priest, or anyone else says.

For the record this is coming from a straight man who believes everyone has a right to be happy, especially in this country which is supposedly free.

Answer 6

I am a gay man and I have several things to say about gay marriage.

1. In that our country has a seperation of church and state, I feel that any and all arguements that based on the bible and religion are pointless... I feel that the government should allow marriage and let each church decided weither or not they would allow a gay marriage in their specific church.

2. and this is specifically to adress jason H.... Married couples have many more benefits then just tax breaks and other such monatary benefits... for example if my partner dies I have no legal rights to his estate if he has no will... and in that case his family can choose if they so wish to take all his worldly possesions and I loose any benefits or the right to claim them so imagine your in-laws having the right to kick you out of your partners house... I know many straight married couples who would never want to go through that....

3. gay marriage vs. civil union... I dont know what to say about that if the only thing stopping gay people from having the same rights as married couples is the wording I am all for having civil unions.... however on the other hand I would compare it to seperate but equal if we have different types of legislation is it really equal I would rather have gay marriage being that politians might then make civil unions have different rights then marriage and then health benefits and other such marriage related benefits might have loopholes and other such inequalities...

so in closeing I would like to think that we could have gay marriage and make homosexual couples have the same rights as all other americans

Answer 7

I think that two people who want to make a permanent commitment to each other should be able to, regardless of sex. I also think that, where two people have made such a commitment to each other, there should be no discrimination by government based solely on what particular combination of sexes are involved. The important thing is the commitment of two human beings to a permanent relationship.

I also think that the gay community (or at least that part of it that wants the label "marriage") does itself a disservice by wanting something labelled as "marriage". That word presses so many buttons among certain members of the community that it makes the achievement of equality that much harder. It puts another layer of irrational prejudice in the way. The label does not matter. The rights and obligations do. I think some of the responses above prove my point in this paragraph perfectly.

Answer 8

First off I would like to say that I proudly have a girlfriend of one year and we hopefully [depending on laws] would like to get married someday. I of course am all for it. Laws are supposed to help us to make a safer life right? But who says gays getting married will make the world unsafe? There is nothing wrong, unsafe, or unnatural about it. People want to blame us for the way the world is, when they are the ones who made it that way. We are not the cause for anything. If all over the nation, gays were allowed the same rights as heterosexual couples, it'd be great. The world is changing each and everyday. America is the land of the free, we are the people in this country, let us do what makes us happy. Whether you allow us to marry or not, we are still going to be together. There is nothing you can do to change that. It would be a great, wonderful, and amazing thing if the world could just open their eyes and see, and learn to accept. We've gotten through [at least hopefully for the most part] interracial couples, lets get through this. As people don't like interracial couples [mostly their families] they get married anyway. And they are happy. I really hope I have helped you out. If you need anything else, extra information, feel free to let me know.

**Proud Gay American**

Answer 9

First off, NO one has ever been born gay, stop lying. Second, "gay rights" are extra rights a super small extremist group is pushing upon a society that has repeatedly voted against it. If the so called "gay rights activists" love the democracy they live in as they claim, they have to stop the marriage fight because this democracy has already spoken about it. And for the courts illegally overturning the votes, those courts are becoming invalidated by the voters as the judges get voted or forced out.
Marriage IS and will ALWAYS be ONLY 1 man and 1 woman. Unnatural acts of sex are NOT normal but perverted and this society has repeatedly opposed it. Yes the Bible says love the sinner and hate the sin. We are doing that. You are allowed Life, Liberty and the PURSUIT of happiness. Notice the Constitution does not gaurantee happiness, just the pursuit of it.
I wish these "gay rights" people would become honest about this entire scheme. It is NOT about marriage, they even say that. It is about subverting a society founded upon Judeo-Christian ethics and the only way for them to have their agenda, invalidate christian ethics as outdated and hateful, sorry, your agenda is failing.
32 Courts have now ruled against gay unions and marriages in 29 states, so far this issue is dead.

Answer 10

Pro homosexual marriage, why do different humans care what you do. Love is love. I am a christian however nonetheless the federal government has no correct to let you know that you just can not marry the man or woman who you're keen on.