While i found out he was cheating on me, he told me through text, i filed for divorce and havent seen him since. I kinda forgot how he looks, n-e ways...i moved on and now that he knows, he wants me back, but i dont want him back. So am i a cheater?
2007-04-19 18:20:45 · 23 answers · asked by sicasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your still married to him then yes you are cheating.
2007-04-19 18:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No honey, you are not a cheater. If divorce has been filed, you are considered to be legally separated. So don't feel like you are the one in the wrong, he cheated, not you. You did the right thing by moving on, it sometimes takes someone years to move on, just wasting that part of their life. So you are doing great! We do not have enough time to think about what went wrong. It is what it is and you move on. That's life! I hope everything works out for the best. But, you have to remember.. Once a cheater Always a cheater... Hope you don't subject yourself into being in that position again. Good luck!
2007-04-20 01:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by Melinda J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seperation with divorce in progress, no you are not cheating on him.
Now, dating a person in only 6 weeks time is extremly fast and possibly not a good thing. You need some time to live and not settle back into another relationship. What you do is what you will, but just remember, you need yourself first and time to heal from any emotion that will come of this divorce.
He wants you back as either the "flame" got old as now it is out in the open, the flame was cheating on him and left him, or he wants his cake and eats someone else's too (as a cheater is always a cheater in my experience with cheaters).
He choose to leave your bed for someone else's. He made that choice willingly and he can't blame you for not wanting him back.
Tell him "tough" and say "goodluck in life. bye".
As far as you cheating, no you are not. Not in my eyes and seems no one else's either.
2007-04-20 02:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the divorce is not final, therefor depending on what state they could look at you as the adulteress and you could end up with nothing. As I am sure you are much happier put the new relationship on hold just until the divorce is finalized. You want to make sure you get everything you can, remember he is the one who cheated on you and ruined the marriage. You had a contract that he was supposed to honor, don't forget that. If this new guy is the "one" he will still be there when it is all said and done. GOOD LUCK
2007-04-20 01:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by love 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. By the fact that you are getting divorce it means that you are not comiting to the relationship, and that the spiritual separation is already done. So go on and enjoy your life, but at least stop leaving in the same house, that will make it a little better.
2007-04-20 01:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by JonEli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are moving way to fast. I don't understand how you can be married, and with your husband 6 weeks ago, and be in bed with someone else already. Sounds to me like you are trying to make your husband pay for his cheating. Don't lower yourself to his level. Take your time and find someone special, don't just settle for the first guy that shows you attention. You deserve better!!
2007-04-20 02:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, because your divorce is not final, if that was the case i would file for divorce all the time just so i could sleep with other woman and say i didn't cheat because i FILED for divorce, you are just as bad as your husband for cheating.
2007-04-20 13:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been separated for 6 wks.
Someone has filed for divorce.
You're with another man.
You've forgotten what you husband looks like.
How long were you married?
Dont mean to be harsh, but I dont think the issue is cheating.
2007-04-20 01:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would be considered cheating unless you have a legal separation and are awaiting the final divorce decree. If you have children with your husband, you could be causing grounds that would jeopardize your having custody of the children.
2007-04-20 01:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Husband + divorce in progess = still married.
Of course it's cheating. Until you get those papers finalized you both are still married.
2007-04-20 01:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by wisdom_women 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you are not a cheater. Move on. He does't want you back. He's just jealous because you are with someone else! Run!!
2007-04-20 01:59:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋