Do you think dating many people is an essential precursor to marriage?

Question

If someone hasn't started dating till they were 22, has he/she lost valuable time?

Answer 1

It's more valuable to date one or two people you share interests with and enjoy being with than to date 100 people you have nothing in common with.

The essential element is to date people that are compatable with your interests with maybe a few differences just to make life interesting.

Answer 2

I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 22, and I don't think I lost any valuable time.

I think that by going through a few or many relationships you figure out not only the type of person you are looking for and the things you do and do not like in a relationship, but you also learn a lot about yourself and how you function in a relationship. I would, now many years later, never date my first serious boyfriend again. We are still friends but we were incompatible and even though I was destroyed when we broke up, in retrospect I see that we were always doomed and if I knew him in the beginning the way I know him now I never would have dated him at all.

I also find that it takes a few people to figure out what love is. I thought I was in love many times until I found my current boyfriend, and I have never felt this way about anyone in my life. Not only is it love, but we're compatible. We have the same emotional boundaries and fit together well.

I will say it is better USUALLY. There are exceptions to every rule, but the more you date the older, wiser and more mature you get and the more you figure out what you really want from life and your partner.

And people in younger relationships very, VERY rarely stay together. It is a little more difficult I must admit to start later like I did and you are, but I think it will turn out fine. :)

Answer 3

Dating is an essential precursor to any form of long-term relationship. The only thing in your question that isn't essential is marriage. Marriage is an archaic institution based upon the notion that women are property to be transferred from their father's household to their husband's. It is nothing less than an institutionalized form of slavery and it is the single most damaging factor to a woman's career and life. Many women typically start to think less of themselves as individuals and more as "wives," inferior parts of a relationship and lacking any wholeness in and of themselves. They wind up dependent. Worst of all, they may come to see themselves as primarily important only as breeders, baby factories that have to crank out a child every now and then to remind the man of how important they are as "mothers." Marriage is pathetic and should be abolished. Date a lot of people, even live with some...but do not enslave someone or be enslaved by someone in that ridiculous institution, marriage.

Answer 4

I believe it depends on the person, to be quite frank. Some people don't need to date a lot before they find that someone special. In my opinion though, yes, but it's never too late. Experience is needed to explore what kind of person with whom you are compatible. If previous relationships ended disastrously then that should provide some in-site as to perhaps consider a different type of partner. Otherwise, a marriage might end in divorce because you feel as though you missed out on something or simply married the wrong person. Also, it partially depends on if you are an indecisive person. If so, it might be vitally important to experience life and the many people in it.

Answer 5

I don't think so. Most of the time, dating during ones early years has little to do with finding someone you want to settle down with anyway. These things don't occur on a set time table.

Answer 6

I think 22 is a good age to start looking for a serious relationship....if that's what a person wants.

Answer 7

No. There isn't any reason to start dating until you are thinking about getting married.

Answer 8

No to both.

Answer 9

no. but start now. it's important. if you have any sense.

Answer 10

No and No