i loves my boyfriend and i love my sons but they are grown children.i"not going to be forces to chose between them. but dont you think i deserve to be happy to?what do you think?it making my boy friend un comfortable.
2007-04-19 17:58:20 · 19 answers · asked by georgia j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Exactly what is the problem they have with Boyfriend?
And I'm just curious--they're adult MEN, so why are they still living at home? And does Boyfriend live with you too?
EDITED TO ADD:
Jesus--based on your other questions, I can see exactly why your kids have a problem with him. You’ve stated that Boyfriend is an alcoholic and when he’s drunk he’s argument, aggressive and rude. Apparently he’s also told you that you’re ‘no good for him’ and he’s seeing another woman. But of course, you still love him LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS AND DUMP HIM.
And by the way, all these answers on here stating (basically) that your kids need to respect your wishes, would be TOTALLY DIFFERENT if YOU had bothered to state the ENTIRE situation. And I’m sure you know that, which is exactly why you didn’t do it.
2007-04-19 18:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you being a doormat for these three men?
A seven year relationship with a man and he has not put you up in your own place? 3 big babies all crying for mommies attention. Put them all out, or you move out and don't tell any of them where you live.
Talk about cutting the cord. Why has this man not married you? Instead he is sucking the best and last years of your life out and spitting them in the wind. Wake Up
You don't have to choose between the three of them because the three of them are the same selfish person. And as for your boyfriend being uncomfortable, damn him.
What's un comfortable? His Binky get dirty!!!
2007-04-19 18:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
between the 2, children is always the priority as they spend their 20 or 23 years living and growing up with you. Everyone here deserve to be happy, not only you and you could promote that by getting them together probably over dinner or drinks and let them talk bout it the boys way, in my opinion it definitely will build a closer bond.
2007-04-19 18:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by sheadrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your boys? Maybe they are looking out for your own good. We women sometimes don't see what is right in front of our faces. I stayed in an emotionally abusive relationship far too long, and it has affected not only me but my children.
But if this guy is good to you and your children then I would say you need to have a talk with your children. Find out where they are coming from, why they have such issues with your significant other in your life.
And not to be nosy or anything why are they still at home? I was out on my own when I was 18. My mother and father had 9 children and all but one of us were out on our own before our 19th birthday.
But remember blood is thicker than water, you will always have your children. But it goes both ways your children will always have you, and they should be happy if this is a healthy relationship.
God bless you and good luck with this unfortunate situation.
2007-04-19 18:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think that it is time for the chicks to leave the nest? They are old enough to be out on their own. Don't set your life aside. As long as this man treats you good, tell your sons that either they accept him and treat him with respect or find a new place to live. When they find someone, they will be leaving you. You will be alone, if you continue to let them rule your life, by running off your happiness.
2007-04-19 18:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump your boyfriend!!!
Your kids even grown ones are the future for you should you become incapacitated!
I read all your other post just now and must say your trying to hold onto something thats dead!
He hate the way you make him feel so he drinks, he stays sober around other people because your not there!
Sorry to be so blunt, but he's something to dismise and remove from your life before it starts to interfear with your sobrity!
2007-04-19 18:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's a good chance that they've had a problem with him all along and were just afraid to voice it since they were so young when you started dating. Your children, regardless of age, should be the #1 people in your life (unless they actually do something like try to kill you, then all bets are off).
2007-04-19 18:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should sit down with your boys and insist that, regardless of their feelings about him, and out of love for you, they should respect the choice you've made. Don't be afraid to tell them that this person (you're boyfriend) makes you happy and at this time in you re life, that is what your looking for.
2007-04-19 18:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by GC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are your adult children still living with mommy? THAT is you answer right there. How can you expect them to respect your boyfriend situation when they aren't even man enough to move out and take care of themselves?
You want them to respect you, make them be adults. Make them take charge of their own lives.
Remember, a man cannot be a man while his mommy is still providing for him.
2007-04-19 18:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to all get along and behave like adults. The first one who doesn't behave like an adult, but acts like a child should be treated as such. You will find out exactly who IS the problem by doing this.
2007-04-19 18:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by brassinpocket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋