was talking to this guy, we've been talking for a few months now, and I ask him flat out,if there is he interested in anyone at the current moment more than a friens, he said yes, and it wasn't me. he also went on to say that "he's sorry but he can't say that he likes me more than a friend" because he doesn't see me in "that " way but told me that I was good looking and cool, but only want's e as a friend.my question is is there a such thing as men finding a woman attractive and only seeing her as a friend? And what would you do if you were in my situation?
2007-04-19 16:45:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes just be friends with him
2007-04-19 16:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by soccrmaniac99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you would like your relationship to go beyond just friends. Since it took you a few months to bring it up, what did you expect the answer to be and why does it upset you? Either the guy has morals and integrity that most men don't develop until they've matured, (and some never do) and is a genuine friend, or he is a psychopathic gamer, and your not the only one he's "workin". It is our (man's) nature to view every, and especially attractive women as potental conquests. When one learns and understands that a real relationship includes being friends, confidants, lovers, and your partner is the other half that makes you more complete, you realize that it is far more rewarding than the numbers of conquests. I learned early in life that you don't get what you don't ask for and unrequited emotional feelings, especially over a long time can be very self destructive. We tend to rationalize and convince ourselves that things aren't what we really know them to be.
I think, depending on your HONEST feelings about him, that you should either be glad to have a real friend or let go if the polite "thanks but I'm already involved" honesty and respect he showed you by telling you is to painfull. He didn't do anything wrong, he just told the truth.
Next time, if you find someone who your attracted to, don't wait for something to happen, ask the questions that will let you make the decisions that best for you.
2007-04-20 00:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by THE ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your choice in men is admirable. He gave you a direct answer, he was honest that he is interested in someone else, and it sounds like he did not want to hurt your feelings and wanted to make sure you knew he appreciated that you are a good looking girl who he thinks is cool. If I were in your situation I would be so thankful that he was straight up with you. And unless it is painful to be around him (if you are really into him) I would stay his friend because sounds like this guy will always treat you fairly and honestly.
2007-04-19 23:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by margot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to respect him for his honesty.Not too many men would do that. They would see it as an opportunity to get laid and leave.This guy would make a great friend because he's honest and he seems to care about your feelings or else he wouldn't be so up front with you.Men do find women sexy and still just want them as a friend.Not all men are dogs, just most of them..Haha. Consider yourself lucky with a friend.You could have wound up brokenhearted.
2007-04-20 00:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by kimberly v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being honest with you and is letting you know he really likes your friendship, values that...and wants to keep it that way. I respect him for that. So continue being his friend...you said you've been 'talking' with him for a few months now..have you ever gone out with a group of friends with him being there? does he really Know "You"..you say you've talked is that on messenger? at school? work? in passing?
I would also start looking in a different direction and meeting new ppl..so you can move on with your life.
Best Wishes*
2007-04-20 00:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's possible although very rare! Actually my husband says "when a guy trys to "be respectful" to a girl and says he "don't WANT her" that gets girls all rilled up and makes the girl want you more!" Now he says "he played that card more than once"...now I have to go cuz I gotta tackle my guy!LOL>
2007-04-19 23:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship can't be built after what he told you. Personally, if I am dating someone that I have feelings for and it doesn't work out, I can't move to the "just friends" category. It just doesn't feel right. My advise is to forget him and find someone else.
2007-04-19 23:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by Yosemite Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really enjoy the guys company, keep him as a friend... if you can't settle for that, move on. Girl, there are lots of fish to fry and if he don't want to get in the skillet a bigger one will!
2007-04-19 23:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by J.J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋