How can I keep my virginity?

Question

I always knew I wanted to save it for a very special girl. Now that I'm heading off the college I never realized how hard it would be to keep and how easy it is to give.

This girl just sort of jumped on me and we did everything you would while having sex but with clothes on....i mean...i liked it...ha...but I had always wanted to marry a virgin and I wanted to be the same for my future wife.

I mean, it's so difficult b/c

A) I'm a college kid and my hormones are goin crazy
B) So many of these girls are SO attractive and not to mention CRAZY....a girl wanted to do it with me in the elevator

soo...what should I do? Do i want to do it...ofcourse....but do i want to save it for my future wife...ofcourse...

What can I/ should I do?

Answer 1

First of all, if you don't want to lose your virginity then you won't. Start focusing less on the girls and more on your studies. The only thing you can do is keep yourself away from temptation.

Answer 2

Set limits now, not when you are tempted. Make friends that share your values for support. Think about long-term consequences. "Very attractive choices can have very unattractive results." --Herbert Cooper, an A/G youth pastor-- like child court, STD's, broken hearts, etc. If an attractive woman comes on to you, don't try to resist her. There's a good chance you won't be able to. Instead, turn and run and don't worry what other people think. Spend daily time reading the Bible, praying, and worshiping God. This is what I do and when there's a temptation that I can't avoid, I ask God for help. If I had a nickel for every time He turned me back off after a girl had turned me on...it really does work if you truly want to stay pure. Sex outside of wedlock is dirty and sinful, no matter what society may say. Sex within marriage is wonderful, and polls suggest that those who wait and live a monogamous life, like the Bible says we should, enjoy having sex the most. It's also safer.

Answer 3

i haven't looked at the others anwers so i know i'm a/b to go against the grain. but don't do it. it seems like you have good moral values and trust me you will regretit if you do this. yeah sure it felt good physically but mentally and morally it is eating you up. now just imagine on your wedding night you wife will be giving you something special and what will you have to offer her but everyone else's leftovers. is it fair to want to marry a virgin if you are not willing to give her the same it's a little hypocritcal if you ask me. why don't you find a girl who has the same values you have and get married. there are lots of people who marry young and now they even have student housing for married couples on most campuses. so the choice is yours. give into your desires now or have a beautiful special gift to share w/someone special. i hope you make the right choice. i had the same values when i was your age and guess what i wished i had saved it for marriage.

Answer 4

Ok, here's the deal. You want sex, but you want to wait. As a female who enjoys an active sex life, here's my advice to you:

Save it for someone who cares. Most of the women there have probably slept with God only knows how many other guys, and only God knows how many she has had unprotected sex with. Giving in leaves you at risk to exposure to numerous STDs & the possibility of getting her knocked up, which would cause many more problems for you & her both. Here's my advice:
1.) Take cold showers
2.) When approached by an attractive woman think of the least attractive thing you possibly can (porn star Ron Jeremy thinks of dead puppies, or so I'm told).
3.) Masturbate, masturbate, masturbate.....
And most importantly,
4.) Remember WHY your saving yourself. Try meeting a nice girl who has the same virtues as you, and it'll make it that much easier. That way if you DO have sex, it'll be with her & it'll be all that much sweeter.

Answer 5

First of all, I really respect you for what you believe in and I hope that you are able to maintain your virginity. I see it this way - one's virginity is too important to give to just anyone - it has to be the one you really love and want to spend the rest of your life with. And if you really believe it, you will stay committed to this fact.

College will change your world - and I tell you, the opportunities are literally everywhere if you look. But DONT START LOOKING! This is the best piece of advice I can give you in keeping this goal - avoid temptation. It starts out by making out, etc. but keep a limit on what you want - stop while you're ahead! It's so easy to go to sex from just making out.. do whatever you can to leave/avoid these situations; try to avoid big parties, but if you must go, but avoid staying in a room with a girl alone; AVOID DRINKING - this definitely leads to sex/promiscuity. I think this is definitely one of the bigger factors. But if you can avoid parties and things like that, that's a good idea. If you get in a committed relationship, stop at the small things like making out because it will only lead to bigger things - it's true, im telling you! Let the girl know this and she should respect you for what you believe, otherwise you should find another girl.

good luck and stay true

Answer 6

Just about every time you post this is ALL you talk about. You know how you remain a virgin...you stop thinking about it and focus on other things besides sex. There! It really is that simple. I truly appreciate that you want to remain a virgin for your future wife, but come on! Drop the issue already. Don't go places or do things that would put you in situations where temptation is an issue and you won't have anymore (or very little) problems from now on.

Answer 7

Just stick to your guns and stay a virgin. You can if you really want to and are serious about it. Don't make excuses about hormones. I have hormones and stayed a virgin until I was ready.

Think that if you do it, you will get an STD. That should help. STDs are rising in people your age.

Masturbate with yourself until you find a wife.

Yes, I am serious. If I can do it, so can you.

Answer 8

think about the future man yea sure it might be fun at the moment but if you want a wife that has saved herself for you don't you think that you can do the same for her regardless of hormones i mean yea i know its more difficult for guys or whatever but....how would you feel if you were to wait and a couple years down the road you meet the one you want to spend your life with and then she says she didn't wait for you ..........it all depends on how important that is to you

Answer 9

Good for you, I admire you for your intentions & your respect of yourself! I'm sure it is very hard & is going to be. IF you can just keep your high standards & respect for yourself & your "intended" you CAN do it. The best thing would be not to put yourself in the position of not being tempted. Stay with the people who have high standards like you have. Maybe try double dating for awhile until you find girls with moral standards like your own. Of course it's going to be a challenge, but be choosey about who you date. When in doubt don't!!! I certinally wish you the best. I DO hope you can do it & God bless the lady who gets you for a husband!

Answer 10

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

I think your best bet is to realize that this is a situation that is hard for you. If you are alone with a girl, you are more likely to get into a situation that you may regret later. So, how about keeping in dates in a group situation where there is less temptation for you.