My friend told me she did it with my some what best friend boyfriend and she could be pregnant. My best friend knows somethings up. Will should I tell her or should I not get invovled.
2007-04-19 16:19:47 · 18 answers · asked by mzlilromeo01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't get involved at all. This is between your friend and your other friend. You are not obligated to tell her. Stay out of it or it might ruin your friendship. If it comes to a point where a long time as passed and nothing has been said then you should speak up but allow time for your friend to tell her that she is pregnant.
2007-04-19 16:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the old adage "Kill the Messenger". In other words you are likely to get blamed somewhat by someone in this emotionally charged situation. Even though it's not your fault.
I would suggest you tell your somewhat best friend's boyfriend or the possibly pregnant friend that the gig is up and they need to be honest. The possibly pregnant friend needs to find out if she is pregnant.
You could suggest to the two that were in the wrong that you will tell if they don't as you feel bad that you know.
Then when everyone is informed they should all get STD tests. And if I were you I would consider if you want to be friends with the possibly pregnant friend. Since, she is not a very good friend to your somewhat best friend. She is at best a drama seeker, which can be a real drag. And, at worst a man stealer.
Good Luck!
2007-04-19 16:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your best friend, you have a moral obligation to talk to her about it. It doesn't matter that she may ormay not have gotten pregnant. What matters is your friend is with someone who cheats. This means they either do not have the emotional attachment, or the emotional maturity, to treat your friend how she deserves to be treated.
Further, the friend who is pregnant needs to be held accountable for her actions, as well. be honest with her, and let her know you plan on talking to the other people involved. Don't go behind her back and tell them, and have it all fall in her lap.
This is a complicated situation, and there is a good chance you are going to get some of the backlash, no matter how you handle it. What matters is that you do the right thing, and you can feel good knowing you are a true frined and true to yourself.
Good luck.
2007-04-19 16:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by o0why0o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its kind of like a wait-and-see situation. But, the down side is u might lose your best friend's friendship if she thinks she loves him. Now, does the other girl, who might be pregnant, know that your best friend is going out w/ the guy? if she does then she alone should tell your best friend, not u. and if the guy really slept w/ the girl then he probably isn't the right guy for her. because if he really was then he shouldn't and would not have done that. he should be w/ the other girl because it might be his baby.
2007-04-19 16:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be Honest with her and say..this girl friend of yours, slept with her boyfriend and thinks she may be pregnant*..if the shoe was on the other foot...wouldn't you want your best friend to tell you the truth*??
COMMUNICATION TRUST AND HONESTY are the KEYS to a long Healthy relationship* Without those ..you have nothing*
If your best friend, finds out somehow, from someone else.....she will be extremely hurt* Why Protect your best friends boyfriend who is sleeping around on her...and why protect your friend who slept with your best friends boyfriend....Your Best Friend Deserves to know the truth of what's going on instead of keeping her in the dark and she's getting suspicious. Don't hold off any longer....Tell her asap*
GoodLuck* ~~
2007-04-19 16:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all going to come out in the open eventually! If you keep this secret from your "somewhat best friend," you may lose her friendship. And by keeping this secret your are allowing her cheating boyfriend to temporarily get away with it. If he keeps cheating who knows what disease he can pass to around
Essentially it comes down to how you would feel if she held this secret from you. I know I would want to be told.
2007-04-19 16:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by carzyang1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point them towards a preacher if she is pregnant. If she is pregnant, She won't be able to hide the fact!!! Your friend suspects something? Should you tell her? Ask yourself, If your boyfriend got your friend pregnant, would you want your friends to tell you?
2007-04-19 16:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not get involved in this problem let them solve it between the three of them. I would stay far away so that no one will have the right to get mad with you.
2007-04-19 16:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of this one. but tell the girl who's pregnant that the boy should tell the girlfriend. that's not fair to her. cover your "a" and hers cause that's not cool what they did behind her back.
2007-04-19 16:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is don't get involved, because your eventually going to end up having one or the other mad at you or hating you, let them work it out themselves, unless your prepared for the consequences.
2007-04-19 16:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by dahorndogd013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋