We are entering the "empty nest" stage and I've been nervous about asking my wife if she would consider a trial period of what is talked about at this site: http://www.aroundherfinger.com/
I am a bit upset that I don't fell comfortable talking to her but I really am afraid that she will think I am "different". I bought the book and would like to ask her to read it.
I could use your input and opinions 1) Has anyone tried this (I was thinking of suggesting a 6 month 'trial period') and 2) do the ladies here think you might freak out if if your long term partner approacjed you with this type of idea.
Thanks for your help with this as I been troubled with it for quite some time
2007-04-19 15:27:25 · 7 answers · asked by Tim 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask her about it. Don't be shy, she just might like the idea of taking the lead. Don't force it on her, just ask her what she thinks, show her the site, ask her to read the book. You gotta keep things spiced up in a relationship, and if you don't ask her, you'll never know her answer. She might like it, and it could open doors to more experimentation. You'd be surprised how many women want to dominate a man. My boyfriend brought it up to me about 6 months ago, and I have to admit, I was a little nervous and it took some getting used to. But once I got past being nervous, it was fun. We don't do it all the time, where I'm the boss, but a couple days a week we do.l like for him to be boss once in awhile. When you bring this idea up to her, ask HER if there is anything she might like to try that you guys don't normally do. If you are willing to try one of her fantasies, I bet she'd be more than happy to indulge yours. Good Luck and have fun.
2007-04-19 15:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by jess_85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead I've been begging my husband to wear a dog collar and pee when I tell him for a long time now. He laughs and says hell no--- but he does every dam other thing I tell him to so one day --he'll do that too "I'll give him a man treat!" in any case it isn't so terrible tell her! Underneath it all we woman know we are in control anyway--we just shut up about it cause of the needy male ego. I guess there are slaker women, but with encouragement and rewards most can be had. buy that whip! Get her a t/shirt that says Bully give her a beer! Now tell your wife or I'll beat your @ss!
2007-04-19 22:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really that you just want her to take over all the responsibilities in the home that are currently yours, or is this a bedroom issue? Are you wanting her to be in control b/c that what you need?
Most women nowadays take the control themselves and have to learn to let it go. I would keep yourself as head of the home, because that's your place.
2007-04-19 23:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by sewingmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by just showing the book to your wife, tell her you found it really interesting and you would like her thoughts on it. Once she has read it, she may ask you why you found it interesting, and that would be your opening to suggest that you try it. Good Luck.
2007-04-19 22:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never live that way but if you think you might, then just gradually start letting her have control. If that is, you think she might be able to handle it.
2007-04-19 22:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend nobody and I mean nobody should be controlled by anybody else, male or female
2007-04-19 22:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, you probably don't realize it, but she's probably been leading your marriage and family all of these years already...
2007-04-19 22:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋