I need some advice. I am married. I have been living with my husband more than 5 years.( We have been married at our very young age). I have always been honost to my husband. The thing bothers me right now is I start having a feeling to other guy who works with me. I feel like I am happy whenever I see him and when I talk to him. I cannot stop myself thinking about him. Wherelse I go I will just think about him, even at home. I know I am married and I want to keep my relationship. I love husband and he is the right person for me. But I cannot take the guy out from my mind. Please, give me any advice. IIs it normal having those kind of feelings?
2007-04-19 15:10:10 · 3 answers · asked by Janar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It just proves you are normal woman. I confess I have done the same thing... I've been with my fiancee for almost 4 years now, I am only 21, So I know what you mean when you say young. Anyways, After the lust feeling in the relationship goes away, and you meet a different guy and he flirts with you, it just brings back the old feeling of what you felt when you first met your husband. I did the same thing with a guy I worked with, he reminded me so much of my fiance and he bagan to flirt with me, I confess I liked the attention. I felt horrible, I broke up with my fiance for about 2 hours and realized that this guy wasn't going to offer me anything. After all my fiancee is such a gentleman and he loves me no matter what, and I only want to deal with his bad habits and not any other guys bad habits.
I know it's tough, but can't let that get in the way of your marriage. Re-evaluate why you have such an attraction to this new guy. Be strong.
My mom always told me " You can't help falling in love that first time that you meet your soulmate, but you can help falling out of love. You always everyday have to choose to love your spouse. That's how you stay in love" My parents were high school sweethearts, 35 years and going strong!
good luck ang I hope I didn't babble too much! I hope you find some comfort in my babbling!
God Bless
2007-04-19 15:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having an attraction for someone else is normal. You're human. Just because you're married does not mean you'll never find another person attractive again. However, if this person is taking up your thoughts so much of the time, you need to talk to your husband about this. Perhaps the reason you're drawn to your coworker is because there's something lacking in your relationship with your husband. Sure, telling him may hurt him. But your intent wouldn't be to hurt him, it would be to make him aware of what you're feeling so you both can work on your relationship together.
2007-04-19 15:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal nor healthy to be lusting for another man. You can take your mind of this man if you really want to. If you don't, trouble & heartache is around the corner. Take care of matters at home & maybe you won't need to think about this other man anymore.
2007-04-19 15:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋