Am I wrong?

Question

I'm 6 months pregnant now, but I am going ahead and making a lot of plans early..

I am planning on puttin the crib in my room for the first few months or so....and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. But, a lot of people are disagreeing with me and saying that no the baby shouldn't sleep in the bedroom with me.

So am I wrong in wanting her to stay in there with me?

Answer 1

Heck no! You're not wrong. It's smart, safe, good for you and baby to be near eachother. One night I noticed that my infant daughter, who had recently been sick, was not breathing normal. She was kind of panting while she slept, breathing really fast. I got scared and took her to the emergency room - and found out she had bronchitis. I would not have noticed if I had not been sleeping in the same room with her! Don't listen to anyone who tells you something that goes against your motherly instincts.

Answer 2

That is totally up to you. If you want the baby to sleep in your bedroom that is your choice, jsut know that the baby may get used to it and have a hard time moving into the crib or the baby's own room later. That is why people are against it. My husband and I have decided that our baby will sleep in a bassinet next to our bed for the first 3-4 months and then we will try and make him switch into sleeping in his room. So we are planning on doing what you want to do too. Like I said it is all up to you. Congrats on the baby!

Answer 3

I don’t think that you are wrong. For the first 4 month my baby slept in a basinet next to out bed. At 4 month we moved her to her crib which was placed in out bedroom. She is breastfed and it is really easy for me to pick her up and feed her, also I don’t have to run like a maniac across the house in the middle of the night when she is crying. Having her close to us also limits her cries because I can attend to her as soon as she whimpers. As good as this all sound we have a problem with her being too attached. She is now 6 month old and is extremely afraid of being alone in the room. She also does not like sleeping alone or sleeping in her crib. We co-sleep half the night. It’s hard because I can’t really sleep deeply when she is next to me because I need to make sure that she is safe and I would not rollover on her, I also can’t use a blanket or other covers as well as sleep on a pillow. We are currently trying to teach her to sleep by herself and to be alone in a room and it’s a long process. I’m just sharing what you might or might not encounter if you place a crib in your room. Nevertheless it gives me a peace of mind hearing her breath not far away. I am extremely afraid of SIDS and this helps me sleep better. I don’t think that I would do thing that much differently with a second baby.

Answer 4

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I wanted to that, but our room was too small for even a small bassinet or pack in play. I knew I did not want him sleeping in the bed with us. I didn't want to start that, so we put him in his own crib his own room. I would get up and run in there just to check on him to see if he was still breathing because I was so scared at first and didn't like him out of my sight. It did get exhausting in the beginning since he did not sleep much at night, but he is now 3 months old and will not sleep well anywhere but his crib in his room. Because of this, I am now glad that we started him in his own room, because I think it would be hard to break the habit later.
It's your baby though, and whatever you do will be right in the end.

Answer 5

I completely understand. My wife had a panic attack when we first brought our baby home. We had the bassinet right by the bed, which was perfect because she breast fed, and our daughter was up every 2 hours. There are alot of fears for the first time parent. SIDS is very scary..my wife had a family member lose a baby due to SIDS. My wife bought this pillow that had a head rest and 2 triangle pillows that keep the baby positioned correctly and according to the package, reduces risk of SIDS. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. The bottom line is you are the parent who is now making decisions that you are comfortable with. I remember my wife telling me that other women would giggle at her for how protective and cautious she was over our child. She never let that bother her, paranoid or not, she wanted to be safe, not sorry.

Answer 6

No. What you do with your child is your business. Nobody should be able to tell you how to raise your child unless you plan on doing it in a cage and in that case there should ne some intervention. But cribs in the parents room are very commons especially after child birth. But at the same time I would not get into a habit where you feel agony if the child is away from you in another room.

Answer 7

I put my girls when they were babies, in a bassinet in my room. When they were 4 to 6 months old I moved them to a crib in another room. My oldest two daughters have done the same things with their children and I have also done it with the grandchildren that I am raising. There is nothing wrong with putting a new infant in the room with you but I would suggest using a bassinet because it is easier to maneuver and it can be moved to anywhere in the house, like putting it in the kitchen while you are cooking.

Answer 8

I personally feel that is best..all though a bassinet would be safer and easier. Safer for the fact that her little head, arms and legs won't get stuck. And easier when you want to convert her to a crib....although my son did not like the bassinet. He slept in bed with my husband and I for his first few months now sleeps every night in his crib and has ever since. He, I don't think, like the confind space of the bassinet!

Answer 9

I personally do not have kids but I have alot of friends who do. All of them originally planned to have the baby stay in a separate room or in her crib, but eventually getting up and doing those 2 am breastfeedings changed all their plans. I think you should do what feels right for you. The way and the amount of time you take to respond to your baby affects the way they develop trust and relationships well into adulthood. Being right there is probably going to be more convenient for you, and helpful to your baby, in the longrun.

Answer 10

Its totally up to you. When I had my son, we kept a bassinet in our room which he slept in for three months. His crib was in his bedroom which is located on the other side of the house. It was easier for us to have him close with the frequent feedings. After 3 months though, we started placing him in his own bed. It worked out great for us. He is 7 months-old and sleeps through the night in his own room.