I just met him, and we argued for the first 2months,one day i figured that he wasn't thinking right,so i observed him for a few days and saw on a book the symptoms of bipolar and HES GOT THEM ALL!now i try to tel him that he might (very sure)have it, but he doesn't agree with me,witch is another symptom (denial of something being wrong) HELP!!!
2007-04-19 14:40:18 · 11 answers · asked by Samantha 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
am bi-polar and to deal with us is a whole lot of work....we get moody and restless but just try to understand him and support him..be the adult
2007-04-19 15:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start this by saying I am bipolar (diagonised 8 yrs ago). First off the reason he is not will to admit he has a problem is that people with mental health issues are very self consious about nothing being wrong, i.e. not being wierd, different, or messed up. He probably has excuses for every symptom you point out. On the up side to this problem right now is you can gentle in very subtle ways help him to see the symptoms without making him feel less of a person. For example mania(the high moods) tend to lead to impulsivity. And of course the over spending of money on unnessasary things. When he does this simply ask him if it is really nessasary, if he says yes (which he most likely will) ask him why. Or if he has rapid mood swings when you see it happening ask him what he is feeling at that moment and what has changed to make his feelings change. I know that is what helped with me when my better half was trying to get me to see i needed help. Having him see that nothing really changed yet his mood has may help him see things in a different light. But don't be surprised if he he feels like your picking on him.The worst thing I've realized is by admitting I have a problem was to admit I don't have control of myself and that can make a person feel really worthless. And next to loss of control worthlessness is a very powerful feeling. It may be something to talk to his family about and see if they can help assist you in getting him to recieve help.
2007-04-19 22:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by locamomma03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything you can do. You are not a doctor and you can't make him go see a doctor. The symptoms of bipolar disorder are similar to symptoms of many other disorders. You can try to convince him to see a psychiatrist, but most bipolars do not want to take medicine and do not want help.
2007-04-19 21:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by fourthrules2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you read a book does not make you a doctor. If his "disorder" is affecting his everyday life enough, then he will seek help from a professional.
2007-04-19 21:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him help real fast or get away from him, my sister was
with a man for nine years that was bipolar. he killed himself
about a year ago. for nine years he threatend to kill others or
himself, and then he finaly done it. he was the same way being in denial of having it.
2007-04-19 21:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by bob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bi-polarity is a very un-predictable affliction. If you Love Him...And He loves you, He will seek help before his problem becomes years of trauma on the one he Loves.
2007-04-19 21:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by Forgotten Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not want to see this then you can not help till he wants it. Is this the relationship you want? Might find someone that does not have mood swings and that you and him can get along with each others family.
2007-04-19 21:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if you like his positive points enough to overlook the bi-polar behavior. We can never change people---they have to change themselves and until he admits he has a problem, he can't change. If you care enough to stay with him, cherish him and help him by accepting him. If his positive behaviors are not enough, be honest, be kind, and be GONE!
2007-04-19 21:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Miss T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur right, he wont really believe u. denial stage.=) but if u really love him, well then develop your bipolar skills. just kiddin... simple if ur not HAPPY of your boyfriend, w/c m sure ur not. better u dont paddle no morei the rappids.=)
2007-04-19 21:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by an29s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait to talk to the good part of him and squeal on the bad part.
2007-04-19 21:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋