how do i tell my best friend im in love with him?

Question

Im gay how do i tell my best friend?
i am 16. my friend is 16. he has given me what i think are hints, that he has a crush on me and is gay. first, we were playing with a toy ball and then started wrestling and then i pushed him onto my bed and got behind him and held him and we just layed their. also, he looks into my eyes and smiles, and would be annoyed when i tickled him, but it didnt bother him. we are best friends and i feel like we can be boyfriends. how do i go about making this wish come true?? ....thanks.

Answer 1

It sounds like you both like each other, romantically. So you should totally go for it. Start by telling him you're gay. That way, you can gauge his response without making a move on him.

It's kind of up to you after that, whether to be physical or just tell him how you feel about him.

Answer 2

First of all, make sure you really love him unconditionally, that even if it were not reciprocated, you would still love him, even if you agreed not to express it romantically, and you and he would still be happy and perfectly comfortable.

If you only love him with the condition that it is reciprocal, then drop it. If there is any selfish condition attached, that you want something back, then that is not true love. If you could not be friends if he was not interested that way, then drop it.
If he is truly interested, let him say it first. Otherwise, wait.

If you truly love him and will be happy and comfortable either way, then you can tell him how you feel, and let him know regardless how he feels, you would still like to be friends and interact where he does not feel uncomfortable or awkward. If there is any problem, you would like to work it out. Since you are friends, you feel you need to share honestly what you are thinking, and you value his friendship and trust him to work with you on this so you can always have good honest relations.

Above all, let him know you value his friendship and want to keep that no matter what. If that isn't true, if the crush and love you desire matters more than your friendship, then don't say anything. Just wait if he acts or says something, and just enjoy your relationship in the meantime. Get to know him better, and find new things to share so that your relationship keeps growing. You may find you are attracted to him because of other things you are meant to learn and share together. So don't limit yourself to what it might mean.

If you are not sure how you feel, and want his help as a friend to find out what these feelings mean, then if he is your best friend, and you can tell him anything, let him know you are having some feelings you are not sure about. And you are concerned it may affect your friendship which you value very much. And ask can you talk and will he promise to work it out with you, no matter what, so you can be even better friends, even if it isn't what you think.

If you can't imagine honestly talking to him about it that way, or you would be devastated if you lost or damaged your friendship, it may be best not to bring it up if you are not sure about these feelings. Do you have another friend or counselor you can consult with first?

Answer 3

Pick a quasi-romantic moment when you know he's in a good mood, and just seriously confess. You will be coming out to him, which if you are gay and he is a close friend, he's going to find out eventually anyway. You may lose him. Actually if he is really your friend you probably won't. And a 16 yr old boy who lays in bed with another boy holding him without freaking out is almost certainly a homosexual. I'd say your good to go.

Answer 4

The simplest was but not necessarily the easiest is to just talk to him. He might be scared and flip out at first or he could be relieved. Everyone reacts differently. You have to be willing to take a risk to reap the rewards.

Answer 5

just tell him you are starting to have feelings for him , dont move too fast u may scare him away.