My bf is on disability. I supported him for a year so that he could get it. He can work PT, and make a little. He is extremely inconsistent in ability. He asked me if he got a house carers position and I accepted salary for paper work (and job title) then we could do this (with him doing the physical work--his disability is not physical). I said No. I thought it was unethical. I felt like he was trying to get me to do a job "for" him, rather than with him. I don't know if this makes sense. It felt wrong to me. It is not a job in my field, and I don't take it lightly that it would be "in my name",. He got REALLY mad and froze me out for awhile and I had a migraine, couldn't sleep. Am I being unreasonable? I have no idea whether I am being totally weird. Would any of you feel uncomfortable with this? He said the salary could help me and I could still do what I want. It isn't something I want to do.
2007-04-19 12:55:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're not being weird at all. It sounds illegal. If he really cares about your well being he wouldn't even ask you to do such a think. It sounds like he's used you as much as you should let him, honey.
2007-04-19 13:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by anjazarovitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he was referring to some one to make sure bills are paid that kind of thing People do this all the time disability pays someone to take care of these things as the people are not that responsible. Actually you save disability money by being the responsible care taker . It is a necessary position because you said that his abilities are erratic. so take the position you don't have to live with him, just do things that he's not good at. Like bills , you are not legally responsible for him , your just a person who makes sure things are taken care of.
2007-04-19 20:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being unreasonable. If he wants to do something like that tell him to go ahead, but you and not interested (especially since you would be doing all the work). Tell him to look for jobs that he can do, not you. Good Luck! Let him know that if you are interested in employment that you will find your own, you don't need his help.
2007-04-19 20:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's not something you want to do, then you shouldn't.
Lets be honest, this guy is a loser. Why are you still with him? This isn't a good guy and you can do much better. Don't settle for him, look for a better guy. There are plenty out there that would love a wonderful girl like you.
Kick him to the curb and don't look back. He is dragging you down.
2007-04-19 20:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-04-20 10:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by sweetu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what he wants you to do makes you uncomfortable or isn't what you want, then don't and he shouldn't ask. He is looking for ways around his issues but it doesn't need to include you or even having you to be responsible for anything you consider unethical. Talk to him.
2007-04-19 20:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out for your good name that's all you really have in life without it they would run you out of town . .You guys aren't married if anything happened your the person responsible . He cant be to mental if he thought of that one hes slick watch out
2007-04-19 20:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your mom and dad raised someone with some morals. Don't do anything you might have to lie about one day. Do the right thing............ it always pays off in the long run!
2007-04-19 20:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not being unreasonable at all, and he shouldnt even ask you do that, its his responsibility, and its time he takes care of himself and his doings....he seems to be using you and i would not tolerate it anymore...
2007-04-19 20:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life and you have to do what's best for YOU. He has to respect that. Never compromise your self respect.
2007-04-19 20:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋