iv been with him over a year and now wow im pregnet and have not lost it yet this time. and unlike the others he is not coming around to liking the fact that i am pregnant. he hates me for it what reasons i do not know please some one help me
2007-04-19 12:02:19 · 33 answers · asked by chica 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I dont know why you would not only put up with someone like that, but go as far as being pregnant with his children. You need to get a clue. If he is not there for you now, he wont be there for the baby.
2007-04-19 12:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't like the fact that you are pregnant because he knows that he is going to have a lot of responsibility when the baby gets here. He seems to have some issues about growing up and being a man, it might not have anything to do with him not loving you. Sit him down and talk to him. He could be scared out of his mind right now. If he isn't willing to be honest with you on how he feels then tell him that he needs to start thinking about which direction the relationship is going to take. You don't have time for these games and the stress so everything needs to be put out on the table before you two go any further. Keep your head up and enjoy being pregnant. Good luck and congrats on the baby.
2007-04-19 12:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by CeeCee19 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU KIDDING? I think a guy can love you but not the idea of being a father when he's not ready. I'm not surprised he detests you. You must be immature if you thought it would be any different. What grade are you and the dad in? I'm wondering how old you are, first of all, and how many times you've been pregnant. This is obviously at least your second preg, according to what you said. Sorry for you, but you can't force someone to be happy to be a parent when he had no desire to be one in the first place.
I have an idea for you that many people here (and probably you) won't want to hear. If you're going to be having sex, GET ON BIRTH CONTROL AND STOP GETTING PREGNANT! It's not cute or fun because you're pregnant. Remember, once a parent, ALWAYS A PARENT, and it's definitely not fair to a child whose parent won't be able to care for him or her. Stop being so selfish.
You should go on Dr. Phil. You need a freakin' reality check.
2007-04-20 12:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by class act 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why could a guy which you're no longer married to "like" the actuality which you're pregnant together with his little one? Why could an single female be excited approximately being pregnant (back) to somebody who apparantly has no purpose of marrying? Sister, you should use start administration and get authentic approximately what it potential to be a be certain and all of the accountability in contact in elevating a newborn. there isn't any "wow, i'm pregnant". you weren't using start administration and you get carry of knocked up. he's in basic terms as lots to blame as you. If would not prefer to be a daddy on the 2d and it extremely is far less annoying to blame you than to settle for that the actuality that his very own loss of kin making plans have been given him into this occasion. Now which you're pregnant, you greater constructive be certain no remember in the journey that your precedence is going to proceed to be residing for your self and being in a courting or being the grown up who has to place all of her little needs and desires way down on the backside of the pile given which you have somebody little and helpless who is going to be reckoning on you for the subsequent 18 years.
2016-12-20 19:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Kyle. He probably feels trapped. He must be young or very immature. I know its tough. Im 28 weeks pregnant myself and not with the father. It isnt easy, i am happy knowing my son will have the best life i can provide. Even if i am alone. Try talking to him. Bluntly as him why he acts this way and says these things. You can speculate all day long. But ask him directly. You will know if he's lying to you. A womans intuition is rarely wrong. If you sense he is full of crap, then get out now. Lean on your friends and family for support. I highly believe people like him wont change. He is probably cheating on you. Do your research. Talk to him. Its about your baby now...
2007-04-19 12:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by hotmama2929 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cause Real Men Dont Do That Even If They Dont Wanna Be With U, It Can Be Worked Out. Unless Hes A Jerk Or Your The Problem. Bottom Line 1 Of Yall Is The Problem When U Find Out Which U Be Ok.
2007-04-19 12:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by CATHERINE H 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
could be many reasons, all bad for you. the best of the bad - he just might not be ready for kids. it is a huge responsibility. there are lots of worse scenarios - in either case, you are in a tough spot. you need help. you obviously can t rely on this guy - so search your own brain as to what you want and how you will go about it. confide in Mom, relatives, anybody you trust. find a support system, do not be alone. if i were you i would dump the guy right now. if he loves you he will come back on his knees and ask to hold his baby. otherwise - good riddance to bad garbage!
2007-04-19 12:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
did you even ask him if he wanted children before you got pregnant, a guy can love someone without wanting a child,chances are he is feeling trapped as you probably never discussed with him about having a child and that's most likely why he is mad, not everyone thinks that having a kid is the thing to do in life, i know for me, my wife and i discussed having both our children and we had no surprises therefore no problems, good luck and if you do it on your own remember friend's and family can be a great help to you.
2007-04-19 12:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by transplanted newfie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste any more time or energy on this as*shole. He doesn't deserve you. Instead, move on an concentrate on making a good life for you and your baby. You will never change the way he feels and he doesn't sound like a very good guy if he "hates" you for being pregnant. DUMP HIM AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!! Good luck!
2007-04-19 12:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by BABIES ÜBER ALLES! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah. It could be he is scared off you losing the baby again, scared of going through the grief of that happpening.
So he's trying to distance himself, and protect himself from pain and not form that bond or desire to see the baby grow in you.
Give him time and space honey, he's just suffering his own anxiety and fear. His love most likely has not changed at all, and it could be hes worried of sharing those feelings with you in case he upsets you too by remembering your previous losses.
You both need to talk eventually though, because it sounds to me like he needs your support as much as you need his.
2007-04-19 12:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋