What did you do to get back at them? Did you think on that plan long and hard or did you do it right away? My husband cheated on me New Year's Eve with an ex-fling and he even had unprotected sex with her. We have lots of problems besides this, but I love him dearly. However, right after it happened I was thinking about finding me somebody to date on the side (not necessarily to have sex with them). I didn't act on that thought at all, but I quickly reminded myself that two wrongs don't make a right and if you love somebody you CAN make the marriage work. I am just curious to hear what others have done.
2007-04-19 11:20:51 · 20 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With all the chaos and drama that I put up with on a daily basis, and all that I do for my husband......If he cheated on me, I'd probably cut his winky off!! So I would have to find someone else, because I don't want a man w/no winky! :)
2007-04-19 11:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband cheated on me but no I did not go sleep with someone else. You are right...two wrongs don't make it right. Besides if you still love your husband you would have felt guilty which would have created even more problems for yourself. Did you ever confront him about his cheating? You said that you had other problems in the marriage as well. Have you thought about marriage counselling if you want to save your marriage?
2007-04-19 11:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cheated on her with our neighbor. I have been wanting to get with her since moving in the sub-division. I also cheated with a co-worker who is also married. What is it with married women wanting other married men? I have stopped now and my wife says she has, but I still keep thinking something is going on. If not for the 3 kids I would leave today and start over. I will never cheat again. My morals and values are just too high for me to allow this to happen again. In the meantime I am not going to follow after her to catch her. GOD will always bring the darkness to light. The punishment for adultery is a life of death.
2007-04-19 11:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by iatk911 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband had an affair - actually, he doesn't even know that I know - and getting even never even crossed my mind. Divorcing him has but I'm trying to work through it. Someone gave me a good piece of advice on here - they said "let the bitterness go so that you can find peace & happiness". Your right, two wrongs don't make a right and it probably would just cause more conflict in your marraige. So if you truly want to make the marraige work, then just try to move past it or maybe seek out counseling. Good luck!
2007-04-19 11:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not only does two wrongs not make a right, but I would rather be able to hold my head high, knowing I was loyal even when he wasn't and be able to sleep at night, and live with myself during the day. My self dignity is worth far more than the relief a short retaliation would bring me.
2007-04-19 11:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife met a married man online had a fling, feel in love and left me and the kids. She was still living at home, when I filed. I gave her a date in which she had to be out, it was the earliest date the judge could sign the papers. She left well before that, but while she was still living in the house with me and the kids, I would go out and play, I can't say I did this to get back at her, I didn't care about her, I did this because I like sex and wanted to fool around, I was very honest and forthcoming with anyone I met, I didn't cry in my beer, but I let it be known I was still married and was just out to have a little fun. I was shocked at the ladies that didn't mind just playing around like that. There, that's my story
2007-04-19 11:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
relies upon on why you felt the favor to ask "precisely what did ensue?" the full "no longer something got here about" relies upon on what the different thinks is "no longer something". some imagine if it did not bypass so a techniques as actual sex then "no longer something got here about". For some, no matter if there have been numerous texting, secret e-mails, professions of thoughts/love, secret conferences, making existence plans that did not contain the significant different/significant different, kissing/cuddles, etc. "no longer something got here about". A actually threat free significant different would truly recommend no longer something in any respect got here about. that they don't have any interest in all and sundry else that way. A cheat who's no longer waiting to face what they did/are nonetheless doing will say "no longer something got here about", even even with the actuality that one hell of extremely some issues has got here about.. So it relies upon on why you felt the favor to ask, and the honesty and interpretation of the different party.
2016-12-04 08:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by bulgarella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did what you did - thought about it but decided against it. Most marriages can survive an affair. You have to be willing to forgive and move forward, and he has to be willing to do whatever it takes to make you feel safe and secure again.
My husband and I watched this episode of Dr. Phil together and he answered some tough questions posed during the show. It's been about a year, and he has proved over and again that he genuinely wants to make our marriage work.
http://drphil.com/articles/article/523
2007-04-19 11:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex went down on everything but the Titanic, male, female(ok didn't mind that too much), hell she even was on her friend's website doing this stuff, s**t even gave me my own password. The final straw was one set of pics of her giving oral to another guy, like I said I had no problem with her and other women. However after she moved another guy in and told me it was over, I went and slept with the friend with the website( who at this point also had enough of her s**t and was about to tell her to f**k off herself), sad part was she got more pissed at the friend than me. All she asked me was so how was the pity f**k. my reply was like I care if it was in pity or not, a lay's a lay, well ok that and telling the ex her friend was much better in bed than she was.
2007-04-19 19:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Wedge_Antilles_72 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I've never been cheated on. I think sleeping with someone else (as a way to get back at your spouse/partner) is not right.
2007-04-19 12:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋